Part of the series ‘Communism → second-wave feminism → social re-engineering’
Index and preamble for series
Escalating suicide rates
Divorce causes escalating suicide rates, primarily for men and to a far lesser extent for women. It stands to reason that, if the suicide rates for the sexes were reversed, that the suicide rates of women would receive far greater attention than the far higher ones of men do now. Yet, it can be argued that virtually all of society conspires to downplay and preferably ignore that men die through suicide in epidemic proportions, in very large numbers, in each passing year.
There are reasons why men commit suicide at high rates, to a far greater extent than women do. Many men who are embroiled in the fallout of separation and divorce are little less disfranchised than the tramps George Orwell wrote about in Down and Out in Paris and London (1933), and things are still much the same for men. How much greater is the risk for men going through separation and divorce to hit skid row than it is for anyone who has not yet been removed from his family? For many the difference is only a matter of time. Many of them will wind up on skid row! It is not a matter of choice, it is one of inevitable circumstances. Some of them will be the poorest of the poor even on skid row.
Even though they may have jobs through which they earn good incomes, not enough will remain of their net pay to allow them to buy enough food or meals and pay rent. They’ll not even be eligible to obtain accommodation at a single men’s hostel, on account of having a job and an “income.” Most men, by far, will try to hang on to their jobs, because they feel that they must, to provide for their children. The men who default are vilified, deprecated and called deadbeat dads, but,
»In the largest federally funded study ever undertaken on the subject, psychologist Sanford Braver found that the “deadbeat dad” who walks out on his family and evades child support “does not exist in significant numbers.” Braver found at least two-thirds of divorces are initiated by women. Moreover, few of these divorces involve legal grounds, such as desertion, adultery, or violence (Braver 1998). Other studies have found much higher proportions, with one concluding that “who gets the children is by far the most important component in deciding who files for divorce” (Brinig and Allen 2000, 126–27, 129, 158).«
—Stephen Baskerville, in The Politics of Fatherhood
Sanford Braver illustrated that vastly most separated or divorced fathers pay the child support they are ordered to pay. Those who don’t comprise roughly six percent. A major portion of the latter default not because they are deadbeat dads but because they are sick, incarcerated, unemployed, disabled, and even quite literally dead. All of them are categorically called deadbeat dads. Yet, women who are ordered to pay child support are far more likely to default, even on generally much smaller monthly amounts, but there has never been a government-founded campaign to make deadbeat moms pay what they owe.
All of that adds to the depression men on the down and out are likely to experience. Worst of all, those men are not only cut off from any contact with women, they are disenfranchised fathers cut off from access to their children as well. Besides, what kind of a father wants his children to know that he lives on skid row? Can we expect such a man to commit suicide? You bet we can, and very many of them do. (More: When it doesn’t get any worse — The life of a tramp)
The life of a tramp (a.k.a., euphemistically, “a homeless – politically correct, because vastly most of them are men, and that fact is not to be stressed – person”) is the worst, unless one considers that a man who committed suicide to escape that fate has it better, because he made the right decision.
Fathers love their children as much as and often more than the children’s mothers do. It is devastating for fathers to be robbed of much or all contact with their children, but losing much or all contact with their children is common for fathers who go through separation or divorce. The following bar chart shows how that works out.
The text pertaining to that bar chart in the report it is shown in states: “…parental divorce tends to affect the relationship of the child and the opposite-sex parent more than the child and their parent of the same sex.” (Excerpt containing the chart.)
The report is not specific about that the parent losing the contact with his children is most often the father. Consider also that fathers going through separation and divorce are much more likely than their estranged spouses are to commit suicide.
»The work by Cantor & Slater (1995) is particularly valuable in that it identified people who were separated from various other categories of suicide….
Cantor & Slater (1995) show the risk of suicide is far higher for men in the period following marital separation––the suicide risk among separated men was 18 times that of separated women––but, after divorce, the rates for men declined to three times those of women. Separated men are also six times more likely to commit suicide than married men, with separated men under 29 being particularly vulnerable.«
— Quoted in “Swedish researchers released a massive study“; Research Review
Still, even women experienced a substantially increased risk of suicide on account of the deconstruction of the institution of the family. Women’s lib hurts women, too. Women who thought they would have it all, now find that they have to do it all, by themselves. women’s lib is not all good, not even for women.
Far from bringing general, widespread bliss, the Utopia that the divorce revolution and women’s liberation were to bring about did not quite deliver the promised goods, far from it. It created much misery and caused for many (and still does) deadly experiences.
The escalating suicide deaths could have been caused by many things, but it is clear from the trend lines in the following graph that the divorce revolution was a major contributing factor. Moreover, no matter what is being done to mitigate the detrimental impact of the
divorce revolution, it will take a long time (if ever) before things will be back to normal.
The pursuit of an ideology at any price is not a good substitute for common sense and the creation of happiness. An ideologue may dream of Utopia, but the harsh reality is that divorce causes escalating suicide rates, and declining divorce rates cause declining suicides.
If anyone should wish to check where things are now, convenient sources of health indicators will permit to determine to what extent men and women are being served by the social changes that ostensibly make conditions better for everyone. A comparison of average lifespans vs. estimated average life expectancies, by sex and for specific years and countries, does that quite well. In the following, it is possible to determine how good the social planners are with estimating what we can expect, and how far reality differs from
In general, things are not going as well for men as they do for women, but why would one expect otherwise? (If you should have trouble figuring out how to check the data for a desired country, you may wish to visit this page.)
Generally (but exceptions always get the most attention), women always got what they wanted, longer, easier lives, and men always did the dying necessary to bring that about. Women’s liberation never was about equality by any objective measure. Women always had the lion’s share of it. Women’s lib was and is about giving women a bigger lion’s share.
Here is an example from a source that permits one to delve a little more into the history of health statistics for all countries in the world.
Nevertheless, women’s lib and the divorce revolution brought about other problems worth mentioning, not the least of which is a pandemic of population decline, but some individuals rejoice over that.
What were Betty Friedan, The National Organization for Women (NOW) and their cohort thinking? Did they ever think of the consequences of their solutions to The Problem that has no Name? Were the lives of millions of people not sacred to them? Nevertheless, policy makers bought into the claims, decided what they thought needed to be done and rammed it all down our throats. No price is too high, when it comes to giving feminists what they want, but that is not the worst of it.