Update 2018 10 14: Appended addendum and links to related articles
Intimate Partner Violence a Mutual Dance
2009 02 10
‘She’d put cigarettes out on me’
By Jim Reed
Men in England and Wales aged between 20 and 24 are just as likely to be abused by their partners as women in the same age group. Campaigners claim not enough is being done by the police, social services and the government to tackle the problem. Read one victim’s story….
I was the youngest of seven – three brothers, three sisters. No one in our family was cruel. Our mom and my sisters perhaps gave me the wrong idea of what women, in general, are like, but not all women are cruel or abusive.
We had lived in a neighbourhood in which many families had a lot of kids. I learned at a young age already that girls and women, mothers, wives, daughters and sisters could be cruel and abusive. Many of them were.
The consequences of female wrath often, even generally, were out of proportion with respect to the perceived (real or not) offences of transgressors (real or not) who were at the receiving end of women’s wrath. It mattered little whether the perceived transgressor was elderly and feeble (a father or grandfather) or younger and in full possession of his capabilities and faculties (a brother, son or husband).
My closest buddy (people thought we were twins, and we later went to school together) experienced having his considerably older sister, who got angry at him, throw a pot of boiling water at him. He still has a scarred foot from that, 79 years later.
Every family in the neighbourhood had one or two grandparents living with them. My impression was that a good third of them, especially the men, were being abused by their daughters, daughter-in-laws, and or wives. Perhaps that was a contributing factor why almost invariably the older men died before their wives did. I was too young then to think much about why men died as a rule before their wives.
The motivation for women’s violence was always a mystery to me and appears to be a mystery even for those who made attempts to formally study it. Still, I came fairly early in my life to the conclusion that the motivation for women’s violence is a mysterious force of nature, as difficult to fathom as the motivation of hens for pecking other hens.
Hens don’t peck just any other hen, but when one of them targets another hen, many of the other hens in the coup join in to peck the same victim. When you raise chickens, you get to know that, and you also know that the outcome of henpecking is quite likely fatal. For that reason it is generally a good idea to take that henpecked hen and make soup from it.
In A Tale of Two Cities, Charles Dickens wrote about the violence of mobs, specifically about the role of women in it, but he was not all that open about that aspect of mob violence. Friedrich von Schiller, too, wrote about the circumstances of the French Revolution and summarized the violent role that women played in it. He, too, did not dwell on women’s violence (covered it in four short lines), let alone explain what motivates it:
Beware, when in the cities’ womb
The fire-tinder has accumulated,
The citizenry, breaking its chains,
Frightfully seizes arms to help itself!
Then tears at the ropes of the bell
The uprising, that she clamors howlingly ,
And, only meant to sound in times of peace,
The password gives to violence.
Freedom and Equality! one hears proclaimed,
The peaceful citizen is driven to arms,
The streets are filling, the halls,
The vigilante-bands are moving,
Then women change into hyenas
And make a plaything out of terror,
Though it twitches still, with panthers teeth,
They tear apart the enemy’s heart.
Nothing is holy any longer, loosened
Are all ties of righteousness,
The good gives room to bad,
And all vices freely rule.
Dangerous it is to wake the lion,
Ruinous is the tiger’s tooth,
But the most terrible of all the terrors,
That is the mensch  when crazed.
Woe to those, who lend to the eternally-blind
Enlightenment’s heavenly torch!
It does not shine for him, it only can ignite
And puts to ashes towns and lands.
—Friedrich von Schiller
in ‘Song of the Bell‘ (1799)
The motivation for women’s violence, the inhumane aspect of it, remains a mystery, largely unexplored, unexplained, lately even denied (which denial is a necessary expedience related to feminism’s assertion that women are the victims of oppression by the “patriarchy”, notwithstanding all evidence to the contrary).
- Police arrest lesbians for torturing boy, 5
- Wisconsin — 67 DV Homicides in ’06-07
- Instant and excessive punishment
- Sheep People Comparisons – Are people sheeple?
- Female innocence debunked, feminist myth
- Catherine Kieu Trial Update: guilty of severing penis
- Flawless flawed — What about children?
- The myth of female innocence – correctional services
- Infanticide — a euphemism for child murder
- Husband-Killing Syndicates
- Judicial second thoughts on pussy pass
- Wives in the SS-Clan Community
- Women not to be jailed for any crimes they commit
- Toxic Parenting
- She-wolves in sheep’s clothing — sexual predators
- Survivor hyperbole – increasingly popular survivor fad
- and much more along those lines…