Are Ukrainian women the answer? Misconceptions exist

GARY wrote:

[ Are Ukrainian women the answer ?] — I HAVE READ YOUR ARTICLES INTERSTINGLY !!! AND AFTER VISITING THE UKRAINE TO TRY TO FIND A LADY WITH OLD FASHION VALUES STUMBLED ON WHY THE MODERN ENGILISH WOMEN SEEM TO HATE THE MAN ! OR CAUSE DISTRESS TO

IT COMES FROM EARLY PSYCOLIGY WHEN THE MOTHER IN FRONT OF THE DAUGHTER GIVES THE FATHER A HARD TIME THIS LEADS THE DAUGHTER TO BELEVE THAT ITS RIGHT TO SHOUT AT AND BEAST THE FATHER FOR LITTLE OR NO REASON.

IN UKRAINE THE FATHER IS THE CENTER OF THE FAMILY AND ALL CHILDREN AND WIVES LOOK TO THE MAN AND RESPECT HIM HE RESPECTS THEM AS WELL IN RETURN AND THERE IS A MUTAL RESPECT AND LOVE FOR ALL.

THERE ARE 9 WOMEN TO ONE MAN THERE IN UKRAINE !! ALL WOMEN OUTSIDE OF ENGLAND SEEM TO LIKE A ENGLISH MAN DUE TO HIS ATTENTION TO THE FEMAIL ! SO WITH THIS BROKEN SOCIETY WE LIVE IN THAT I AM PART OF ASHAMEDLY I CANNOT FOR SEE HOW THE SO CALLED CORK COULD BE PUT BACK IN THE BOTTLE AFTER BEING TAKEN OUT AND IT WORRIES ME FOR I WISH FOR A FAMILY AND A SON.

ALL MEN NEED TO BE LOVED SOME HOW

GARY

Hello Gary,

You are worried because you suffer to some extent from commitment phobia, but your fears are definitely far greater than warranted. I installed a few links in my response to your message. Follow those links, to be able to dispel some of your misconceptions.

For one thing, you have some misperceptions about the demographics in Ukraine. I don’t know what you base your claim on that there are nine women for every man in Ukraine. If those demographics were true, you should truly worry about picking a wife from there. After all, what happened to the other eight men in every nine if there is so much love and respect for men in Ukraine?

Gain a better idea of the distribution of the sexes in Ukraine. Even though the difference in the life expectancies of the sexes in Ukraine (see Table B) is heavily skewed in favour of women, the population of men in Ukraine is roughly ten times larger than you claim it is.

You should worry about whether any man who marries a Ukrainian women is due to kill himself. The suicide rate of Ukrainian men is the eleventh-highest of all countries in the whole world.

Given that I live in an area that became heavily populated by Ukrainian immigrants, I know quite a few women of Ukrainian origin and am even married to one. I have no thoughts of committing suicide, but I knew a good number of men – Ukrainian and otherwise – who were married to Ukrainian women and did commit suicide right here in Canada, quite a few of them due to troubles they had with their wives. However, that does not prove that they were more likely to commit suicide than the suicide rates for Canadian men indicate.

Then there is your claim that the disdain for men in our society comes from mothers arguing with their husbands in front of their daughters. If that were the sole or major reason for disdain for men, then the solution would be to pick a wife from a family in which the mother never argued with her husband in front of her daughter. It would not be a good solution to pick a wife who is the daughter of a single mother who disdained men and the father of her daughter so much that she chose to remain single, because the absence of a father does not indicate that such a mother respects men. However, I am largely kidding.

Your over-estimation of the impact that mothers who argue with their husbands in front of their daughters have on their daughters is due to you apparently totally ignoring the impact of feminist social engineering in education and in the media. Boys, girls, men and women are affected to a very large extent by the feminist-controlled and -designed information and indoctrination they receive through school, TV, radio (through programs and commercials), in the print media and all others. Have you not paid any attention?

Does familiarity breed contempt in your case? If so, it stands to reason that you missed the fact that one of the major aims of feminism is to destroy the institution of the family, thereby to eradicate the influence that parents have on their children. Not parents, but now peers — and the imprinting and brainwashing they receive through the education system and through the media, are the controlling influence on the psyche of individuals.

It is a good idea for any man not to fall in love with any woman unless he knows for sure and through personal observation how she treats the men in her life, so that he gains an idea of how he will eventually be treated. To give you some sense of direction for choosing a prospective wife, read our advice on that issue:

Don’t confuse love with lust. Make sure that when you get an erection you don’t lose your mind. Always think of the consequences. Is she someone you would want to face across the breakfast table ten years down the road? Is she the woman who’ll be the best possible mother to your children?
Whether you’ll still be together ten years from now or not, you are trusting her with all you’ve got, your genes, with more than half of all you’ll be able to earn for the rest of your life, and with your physical and emotional health. Will she be worthy of all of that?

Love is a commitment to someone else. It won’t work if it is one-sided. Love will thrive only if there are mutual respect and common goals. The best possible goal is for both of you to devote your lives to your children. Will both of you be willing to do that forever?
Be careful. If there is anything that makes you feel sorry for your partner, don’t assume that you’ll be able to fix any of the problems she is suffering from. The most likely outcome will be that things will get worse over time, regardless of what you try. If she’s untrustworthy now, she’ll be more so as time goes by. If she speaks badly of others, chances are good that she’ll come to speak badly of you. If she cheats with you, it’s likely that she’ll cheat on you as time goes by. If she’s selfish now, she’ll most likely not be able to be generous to you or your children. If she is a spendthrift now, she’ll become worse as time goes by and your income increases. That will cause your marriage to suffer from the enormous stress of always having too much month left at the end of the paycheque.
You can tell a lot by observing how she deals with her friends and relatives. If she respects and loves them, she’ll be capable of respecting and loving you and your children, provided you deserve that love and respect. However, if she is selfish and demands her rights to entitlements without feeling obligated to others at least to an equal extent, you’ll most likely be no more than an indentured wage slave to her as time goes on. Not only that, but the courts will hold you to that responsibility whether you are married or not, regardless of whether your children are allowed to see you or not, even – whether you know or not – regardless of whether the children are yours or not.

—Ruth and Walter Schneider
more at http://fathersforlife.org/mens_issues/advice_to_men.htm

It is true that women in non-western nations appreciate western men for their “respect and chivalry” for women. However, you must realize that those characteristics of western men are largely due to centuries and perhaps thousands of years of the feminization of men in the West (according to Aristotle, they were, for example, a major cause of the demise of Sparta).

It is quite possible that what women elsewhere see as being desirable in western men will soon come to be seen by them as a despicable weakness.

The reality of the consequences of that is that bi-national marriages are more likely to end in divorce, the more so the greater the cultural, religious and language differences are between the two partners in marriage.

All the best,

Walter Schneider
http://fathersforlife.org
http://blog.fathersforlife.org

P.S.: Gary, it appears that your keyboard is stuck on the “caps lock” key being on. Using “all caps” make your letter hard to read. Not only that, but using “all caps” in an e-mail message is the equivalent of shouting. —WHS

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