PC Feminism

December 27, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

It appears that the concept of PC Feminism evolved out of, or is an umbrella term that describes, a combination of various factions of feminism, such as Affirmative-Action Feminism, Gender-Feminism, Hegemonic Feminism, Pop-Feminism, Post-Modernist Feminism, Radical-Feminism, Survivor-Feminism, Total Rej (total rejection) Feminism, and Victim Feminism, in short, any and all forms of feminism that elevate women to the status of a superior class of citizens and relegate men and boys to the category “sub-human”.

Therefore, PC Feminism not only promotes superior status, rights and privileges for women but makes all-out discrimination against men and boys politically correct and desirable.

(Full Story)

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Women can make breach in the wall of indifference

November 10, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

The indifference referred to in the title of this posting relates to the social apathy that permits rampant discrimination in court proceedings that produce fathers expunged from the lives of their children as if they were being cranked out on an assembly line.

One such father wrote to me about a book that he feels will open people’s eyes to the abuses in the courts that are being experienced by men.  He thinks the book deserves honorable mention as an eye-opener because it was written by a woman.

Winner Take All : A woman exposes the violation of men’s rights at the hands of family law, by Molly Murphy

I post here my last response in the one-on-one discussion we had on this to encourage him to come out in the open with something that is essentially a public concern that should not be hidden.  Here goes:

Dear Kevin,

I accept all you state about the book, and if you condense it a little, so that many other people will want to read it, you will just about have it in the form of a review for which our blog has been made available to you and anyone who wishes to abide by the blog rules.  Aside from that, I merely stated that, going by the many comments I read [about the book], I see nothing that indicates that the book calls for any particular changes to Canadian jurisprudence (which in view of the name of the website for the book promotion, www.changefamilylaw.com, seemed to be a bit incongruous).  How do you read into that what you did, that I think the book has no merits?

I cannot do it all by myself, and I could not do justice to the book by producing a book review, because I have not read the book.  No copy of it has been sent to me, which is what people who wish to promote their books here usually do.  If you feel strongly enough that the book is worth it, write about it and post that to Dads & Things.  If it will be written well enough, which you are evidently able to do, it can be posted as a guest article and thereby become the beginning of a new discussion thread.

I really wish people would get over their fears and have such debates in public, on our blog, rather than on a one-on-one basis and in private.  Do you feel that your convictions will not withstand public exposure?

A public debate would quite likely do more to popularize the book than a book review could.  Besides, you are preaching to a member of the choir without anyone else being in hearing distance, but you should try and reach those who know little or nothing about the issues of concern, which is what the blog is for.  A one-on-one debate of any topic of that sort is wasteful, considering how many more people could be reached by having it in public.

Alright, now to what you see as a breach in the walls of the fortress of discrimination against men and fathers.

I have no idea of how familiar you are with what Fathers for Life presents, but surely you must have noticed that it contains contributions by many women, contributions of whom many were made many years ago already, for which reason and by your reasoning — that it takes women to make a breach into the wall of denial — you must be familiar with what they wrote and that much of what they wrote is available for free at our website or accessible through it.  If the following names have not reached the status of household words in your world, click on the links identified through their names (to mention just some in no particular order):

Note: Do not attempt to read all of the articles identified through the lists of references provided through the following links, but browse through the lists and try to read a few of the articles, so that you can get an appreciation of the issues that the author of your book appears have failed to address (she most definitely failed to impress any of the commenters whose opinions I read, if in fact she had made any suggestions for required changes).

Eeva Sodhi, Erin Pizzey, Dale O’Leary, Karin Jaeckel, Christina Hoff Sommers, Candis McLean, Donna Laframboise, Patricia Pearson, Louise Malenfant, Susan Steinmetz, Antonia Feitz, Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, Maggie Gallagher, Elizabeth Loftus, Patricia Morgan, Judith A. Reisman, Phyllis Schlafly, Gudrun Schwarz, Esther Vilar, and many more.

By the way, the preceding list of women authors contains Canadian women authors, five of them.  Do you know who those are?

Still, in spite of what all of those women wrote and of what of that is posted at our website (much more is available elsewhere), somehow I doubt it that you had ever known of all of them — if any.  Had you known of them, you would certainly not think that what you read in that book is so novel and so earth-shaking because a woman wrote it.

Nothing will change things, except time and the death of feminism, whereby then the judicial system will adapt to serve the public as required.  Until then, feminists are in total and absolute control.  I don’t think that the book so dear to you mentioned that.  I can’t even recall whether it impressed upon anyone that feminism is the driving force for the discrimination against Canadian men.  Can you clear that up for me?

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Fathers Have No Legal Rights

November 8, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

LifeSiteNews.com
Nov. 8, 2010By Hilary White

Young Pro-Life Father Nearly Lost Son to Abortion: Says Fathers Have No Legal Rights

DUBLIN, November 8, 2010 (LifeSiteNews.com) – Joseph Lee, who serves as the development officer for the Society for the Protection of Unborn Children in Scotland, is the father of a four-year-old boy. But he almost lost his son just over four years ago, thanks to the fact that Britain’s abortion laws do not allow men to be taken into account in abortion decisions….(Full Story)

Joseph Lee and his girlfriend are to be congratulated that their son is alive and apparently well, but the story at LifeSiteNews.com states absolutely nothing about whether Joseph Lee is a part of the life of his son or whether his son has been condemned, like millions of other children, to grow up fatherless, without the presence of his father in his life.

The article focuses entirely on the fact that Lee prayed for his unborn son’s life, how it came about that the expecting mother decided not to go through with “her” abortion, and that the boy is now alive.  The story does not even let us know whether the boy is in the custody of his mother.

It could be that both Joseph Lee and his girlfriend live happily together, raising the son they conceived through their act of love.  It could be that the boy was given up for adoption.  The article doesn’t say.

Mind you, after having stated that Joseph Lee “pointed out that “it’s very rare” to see anything written about the rights of the father in the abortion debate.” he is quoted as having said,

“Even in pro-life circles … abortion lobbyists are focused on women’s rights,” he said. “Pro-lifers tend to rightly focus on the child. Most counselors focus on the woman, but there’s nothing really that focuses on the father.”

Ironically, even in a pro-life article by LifeSiteNews.com that highlights that curiously blinkered view of fathers’ rights and how even pro-lifers cannot force themselves to remove their blinkers, the vital bond between a boy and his father is being ignored.  One cannot help but feel that such ignorance is no accident but either a powerful compulsion or perhaps and quite possibly deliberate.

Sorry to have to say it to LifeSiteNews.com, “You will not have much success with having those who wish to abort children about to be born stop their actions and instead respect the life they are about to snuff, unless you also respect and promote the rights of fathers to be within and not without their families and children.

Do that, or else the lives you help save will only find themselves in the fatherless society you help to create.”

A copy of this comment was sent to LifeSiteNews.com as a letter to the editor.  Stay tuned to see what happens next.

Posted in Abortion, Social-Destruction Enterprise, Paternal Rights, Civil Rights, Censorship, Men's Issues, The New World Order, Feminism, Feminist Jurisprudence, Women's Violence | Print | 6 Comments »

Man Woman & Myth

October 31, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Many thanks to George Rolph for pointing me to this.

Man Woman & Myth

Truth, Lies and the War on Men

The website identified by the preceding link is one of the most important ones I have come across in decades.  It answers the concerns of many men’s and fathers rights activists who wrote to me over the years and expressed the wish for a video lectures series on men’s and fathers’ issues.

Well, the video project by Man Woman & Myth is the answer they sought and to which many of them through their efforts tried to contribute more or less successfully.

About the Video Project

The Project

A documentary series, 7 years in the making, exploring all aspects of male-female relations from a man’s point-of-view. Looks at the various reasons behind the negative treatment of men in Western society, including the root cause: Feminism.

Consists of 49 short films on Feminism, Misandry, Equality, Domestic Violence and Education as well as Family issues like Paternity Fraud, Fatherlessness and Reproductive Rights.

As of now I have only been able to quickly browse the website and looked at no more than a quick sample of the 49 videos that are available there.  I am amazed at what has been put together.

I will watch all of the videos in the coming weeks and try to give that top priority.  As I go along with that, I will report on what I find.  It is quite obvious already that not many words at the website are wasted and that all of them are intended to mean what they say.

The first lesson I learned is that the website owner means everything he states in his “Notes on the Video”.  Read all of the notes.  Just as there is no way you can take in all of what the 49 videos present without watching all of them, so you will not be able to successfully understand the problems you may encounter in downloading, file-sharing or watching the videos without reading all of the notes.

As of now, my first impression is, Wow! The Man Woman & Myth video project either used the website of Fathers for Life to develop its scripts or it took its guidance from some of the same sources that guided me and the contributors to Fathers for Life over the years.  The video-project leader quite rightly states:

As a result of years of feminised programming, any film like the ones found here will be a bit like a bucket of cold water in the face in terms of the presentation of what I see as basic reality. Many people will not be used to this degree of forthrightness and honesty and some may be a little shocked.

That is absolutely no exaggeration, at best an understatement, and it is no wonder.  Look at the individuals that were interviewed and whose views are being presented:

Principal Interviewees

• Angry Harry

Psychologist and prominent Men’s Rights activist, angryharry.com.

• Erin Pizzey

Author and Domestic Violence expert. Opened the world’s first domestic violence shelter in London and is a patron of the Mankind Initiative Men’s Charity. Author of the book “Prone to Violence”.

• Stephen Fitzgerald

Former Director and National Organiser of the Mankind Initiative Men’s Charity.

• Michele Elliott

Founder and Director of Kidscape, a children’s charity, and author of the book “Female Sexual Abuse of Children”.

• Oliver Curry

Evolutionary Psychologist at the London School of Economics and contributing author to Demos, the independent think tank and research institute.

• Professor Colin Francome

Professor Emeritus of Medical Sociology, Middlesex University. Author of the book “Improving Men’s Health”.

Alright.  That is all I can say for now.  I will be back about this and present more of my impressions as time goes on.   I hope that if you watch any of the videos, and you absolutely should, you will be able to post a comment here.

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Belfort Bax on jurisprudence and men’s issues

October 25, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Just in case you never read anything about or by Belfort Bax, here are important links of interest to anyone who wishes to know more about feminism.

The social revolution that began in the 1960s and with the credit for which second-wave-feminism adorns itself is nothing new.  It is the final stage of a social revolution that is a continuation of a trend made possible through the chivalry by “men” of the Victorian age (politicians, judges, lawyers, writers and journalists) who did their best to give women — in the name of liberating them from male oppression — more and more privileges at the expense of common men.  In that fashion The Fraud of Feminism (1913, by Belfort Bax) has been at work already for hundreds of years  to bring about The Legal Subjection of Men (1908, by Belfort Bax). (From: Feminist family politics and their roots in communist ideology)

The Fraud of Feminism and The Legal Subjection of Men are archived web pages and can be somewhat slow to load, but both are worth the wait if waiting should be necessary.

Posted in Paternal Rights, Civil Rights, Maternal Rights, Violence by Proxy, Divorce, Men's Issues, The New World Order, Feminism, Feminist Jurisprudence, Women's Violence | Print | 1 Comment »

Overwhelmed by demands for more child support

October 1, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Just about every day I receive requests for help with issues relating to child-custody and child-support, often quite a few of such requests on a given day.

The following message is an example, and my response is appended.

On 29/09/2010 1:07 PM, Tom [not his real name] wrote:

Hi guys,

I really need help right now...

The ex is asking for more money after almost 7 year of paiements being done EVERY month. She moved away 12 hours from here, in another province (i live in canada) with her new boyfriend in the army and now tells me she has the kids (2 of them, girl-11 and boy-8) more often blablabla...

No one can tell me what to do or what would i have really to pay... they all say i need to get a lawyer, wich i can not.... no money for that.

i'm 35, has a good job as a tehnician, always paid my pension... i've been screwd many times by layer...i still owe them money... i need help.... thinking about finishing it off real soon...

thanks,
Tom

Hello Tom,

Are you in touch with a fathers rights organization where you live?  If not, then check this directory.

Here are links to some articles that contain responses to help requests like yours (found by searching fathersforlife.org for “how to find a fathers-rights organization”)

• http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2008/04/24/father-custody-outcomes-in-children-of-divorce/
• http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2010/04/05/on-going-custody-battle/
• http://blog.fathersforlife.org/category/child-abduction/

The  actual search will produce links to many more such articles.

Make sure that when you try to find organizations you pick those that have frequent meetings of their members.  Attend those meetings and get to know some of the members and their issues.  You will then soon learn which of those organizations you find are best.

The men you will meet are at various stages of their custody and support battles.  You will learn more from them than you can learn from any lawyer.

Try to get advice on what to do to represent yourself in court.

Get your case into a Court of Queens Bench or into a Court of Justice other than the Family Court.  If you need to know why that is so, ask me again, but I suggest that you first try to discuss that with the Fathers rights organizations you find in your area.

Still, if you need to ask me, there is little more I can tell you than what is contained in this article: Freedom, Equality, and Society’s Treatment of Men and Families.  That article was found through this search for articles on the subject of the history of the family court.

You may think that I am throwing a lot of reading material at you, and that that does not really help you.  If so, consider that you need to understand the context of the difficulties you find yourself in.  If you don’t understand that context, then you will not be able to find a solution, and, most importantly, you will not be able to tell your lawyer what he needs to do for you.

Don’t think that it will help you to hire a lawyer and have him do all of that for you.  If that is the way you feel will help you, then you may as well sign a blank cheque and let him fill in the amount.

Your relationship to a lawyer is similar to that between you and a building contractor.  You are the boss and will have to foot the bills.  He work for you, and to be able to do that right, you will need to give him a set of blueprints, agree with him on a price for what he must do for you, when, where, how and why it needs to be done.  (For more on that read some of the articles you can find by searching for “how to select a lawyer”.)

Moreover, you will need to make sure that your lawyer does all of that at the right time, in the right place, in the right way and for the right reasons.

You may think that all of that is a lot of work.  If so, then you are exactly right.  The money involved, alone, makes it important enough that you do all of that work.  Moreover, you will have to make sure that the right things are being done for your kids.  After all, that is why you became a father, right?

Regards,

Walter

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Response to a fatherhood survey

September 23, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

You are encouraged to provide your own responses to:

Fatherhood Survey

We’re gathering evidence from a range of children, professionals and the general public in order to present a child-centred case demonstrating the importance of fatherhood. The hope for the project is that we’ll be able to identify, understand and raise awareness of the barriers to father-child relationships and to produce a set of recommendations about how they might be removed.

Find out more about the survey and how we’ll use the results by visiting our Fatherhood Commission page.

Find out how to submit a more extensive contribution to our Fatherhood Commission.

Please take a few moments to tell us what you think about the issue of fatherhood. You don’t need to be a father to fill in our survey. We look forward to reading your views.

* indicates a required field

* Are you:

Other

If ‘other’ please specify:

a son, a father and a grandfather

* Are you male or female?

Male

* How did you hear about this survey?

Other

If ‘other’ please specify:

Your attempt at posting an off-topic comment at http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2010/09/20/goal-posts-for-thompsons-have-been-moved-again/

Do you believe that fathers are important to their children’s well-being? Please explain your reasons.

Fathers are as important as are mothers.  Only by being able to bond with their fathers as well as their mothers can children fully develop their potential to become completely human.

What do you feel are the main barriers to fathers’ involvement in children’s lives and do you have any ideas on how these barriers could be removed?

One of the main barriers to constructive fatherhood is society’s all-out war against fathers and families.  That leads to the expulsion and exclusion of fathers from their children’s lives.

A good start with removing those barriers could be made by halting the vilification of men and fathers.  More progress with that could be made by putting an end to the criminalization of fatherhood through divorce- and family-courts as well as through various social agencies, foremost the education system and the media.

Further progress would be made by recognising and addressing the problem symptoms and their causes stemming from the systematic and deliberate exclusion of fathers from their children’s lives.  Check: “Experiments in Living: The Fatherless Family”, by Rebecca O’Neill; Sept. 2002, CIVITAS, http://www.civitas.org.uk/pubs/experiments.php?PHPSESSID=04a5571963443f82281d8c0bd4332322

Do you have any ideas on how to encourage fathers who are not involved in their children’s lives to become more active?

Certainly.  Stop the criminalization of fatherhood and let fathers be what only they can, let them be fathers.

If you have any other views on the issue of fatherhood that you would like to share with us, lease comment below.

Perhaps I gained the wrong impression from your website  — correct me if I am wrong — but the elephant in the room glares through all absence of you mentioning it:  no-fault divorce, in which the fault is always and without fail squarely laid on the shoulders of the husband.  In short, you don’t once mention divorce, the major and all-pervasive reason for negative outcomes in child-raising.

[Submitted]

Visit The Children’s Society Fatherhood Survey and provide your views.

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Help request: Child abduction and alimony

September 16, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

On 16/09/2010 12:33 AM, [Name omitted] wrote:

Sent from my iPhone

Begin forwarded message:

Hi

I’m a father of two girls … My common law wife took off with the girls 18 mths ago. My life has been he’ll.

I was the stay at home dad … Took care of kids and also worked and gave all money to wife for investments and expenses.

When she left she put a retraining order against me even though I had done nothing …. She simply told me she wishes to move away and is determined not to have me involved in my girls lifes.

I have went bankrupt and the judge states I can see my girls 6 hrs per week.  I’m currently on social assistance yet the judge does not feel I should get spousal support even though my ex earned over 120k last year. Judge Curtis is known as a pro feminist and my lawyer says there is nothing left to do. My girls want an ocl involved as they wish to live with me but the judge says no.

What r my options?

Who can help?

This will probably be too long to be displayed on your cell phone, but the next couple of paragraphs should show.

Fathers for Life has a few articles on how to select a lawyer.  Check those out and pick a lawyer accordingly.

To explore your option in Ontario, you need to get in touch with Ontario fathers-rights organizations.

Don’t just pick one.  Check out several, specifically those that have frequent meetings of their members.  You will learn more from them than you can from a lawyer, as they will have reached various points of progress (or lack of it) in their battles.  A directory is here.

Get your case out of family court and into a Court of Queens Bench.  Family courts are not there to solve family problems but to speed the easy dissolution of families. (Read more on family courts.)  Here is a summary of what family courts are all about:

[When no-fault divorce became a reality, it] became soon apparent that the courts could not cope with the flood of divorce applications that caused ever-increasing waiting periods before divorce decrees could be issued.  To expedite the dissolution of marriages, family-court systems were implemented throughout the developed nations.  Nothing much would have been accomplished by merely shifting venues and leaving the rules of the court intact.  Therefore the family-court systems were made to operate without jury trials, without the traditional rules of the court, without rules of evidence, and without the mandatory and constitutionally-guaranteed right of respondents (usually fathers, in family courts) to have legal representation [or even to face their accuser].  Many procedures that had been put into place over the centuries to ensure that anyone could be assured a fair trial thus vanished in the family courts.

That, too, was nothing new.  All totalitarian regimes that were obsessed with the eradication of enemies of the state did the same when they created their people’s courts.  We can’t be certain that the example of the people’s courts in totalitarian states was used as a model for the more recent creation of the branch of the judiciary in which the rules of law could be held in abeyance and circumvented.  One thing is certain; all of that worked fine and produced fine results.

The enormous and overwhelming backlog of divorce applications got soon cleared, and the process of the dissolution of marriages has been operating with great speed and efficiency ever since.  In some countries (e.g.: the U.K.) the process operates behind closed doors, ostensibly to protect the interests of the children, although it should be quite obvious to anyone reading this who is being protected….(Source: Freedom, Equality, and Society’s Treatment of Men and Families)

All the best,

Walter
Fathers for Life
Dads & Things

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Four homosexual parents for one boy

September 15, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Today I came across a story about an Australian judge having awarded child-visitation rights to two gay men who took turns donating sperm to two lesbians.

The story appeared on the German-language blog http://www.in-australien.com, apparently a gay-rights-oriented blog, at http://www.in-australien.com/baby-mit-4-homosexuellen-eltern-das-gericht-fallt-ein-urteil_103692

The story is dated Sept. 15, 2010 and mentions that the court decision involves a lesbian couple in Melbourne, with no identification of where the two gay men hail from.  The judge in the case is ostensibly Linda Dessau, but I have no clue as to which court she resides at.

Although I spent a considerable amount of time searching for English-language verification of the story, I have not been able to find any such thing.  Do any of you know anything about this?

Here is a translation of the German-language article into English (it is an edited version of one produced by Babel Fish, but I did not spend very much time in correcting grammar, wording and syntax):

Baby with 4 homosexual parents: The court delivers a decision

In Australia, a lesbian and a gay pair were transformed into four homosexual parents of a cute baby. The Australian court responsible was able to deliver a verdict in this case that awards  rights to all parents  enabling them to be allowed to care for the baby. Originally, the two lesbian life-partners  simply wanted to have a child of their own. A gay couple made itself available as sperm donors, with both men alternating  with their sperm donations. The project was successful, and thereby, approximately two years ago, a small boy came into the world. That evoked such great parental emotions in all four parents who had been involved that now none of them can do without the little tyke and, accordingly, wished to spend as much time as possible with the newly-born.

For that reason, with the passing of time ever more disputes developed  between the two pairs of parents, so that now a court had to decide in the situation. The four tried to find common grounds on parental responsibility and visitation arrangements, in order to do justice to themselves and to the small baby. However, they could find no agreement that would satisfy all parties. Justice Linda Dessau was therefore to decide what was to be the best for the now already 2-year-old child. Because all four persons love the small one dearly and deal responsibly with him, she decided that all participants should be awarded the right  to be allowed to spend time with the boy. The child is to have the possibility in each case of becoming acquainted with all four parents in order to experience their parental love.

The court hands down a clear verdict

 The baby was born in Melbourne and lives until today together with his two mothers here. The two men  had moved to Melbourne already before the birth of the child, in order to have regularly contact with it. After two years all parents had developed such strong feelings that everyone wanted to spend equal time with the infant. Since the baby had  so far lived with the two women and these thus more were involved in its life, the mothers pleaded that the small boy was to live further with them. The judge said, however, that the two men are not just simply sperm donors, but that both feel true feelings for the boy.  On the basis of those facts the judge decided that the boy may live further with the women, although the two men should receive regular visitation rights, to see their offspring grow up and to be able to provide him with their paternal support.

Well, I am not an expert in matters of such a confoundedly confusing parental situation in which a judge declares the physically-impossible, that there can be two mothers and two fathers of one child.  All I have to go by is my many years of experience with raising sheep.  Furthermore, tit-for-tat, I would like to, just as homosexual-rights-activists are fond of doing, project from the parental practices in the animal world to  those that come into play in civilization.

Even King Solomon found parental disputes by mothers in such issues extremely confusing but devised a practical solution that enabled him to rule which of two competing “mothers” was the natural one who truly deserved to be the one mother whom the boy in that case was to be assigned to, so as to preserve the standards that made society work well.  Judge Linda Dessau appears to have assumed powers of judgment that vastly exceed the wisdom possessed by King Solomon.  Nevertheless, my experience in such matters with the sheep that we raised over the years will almost certainly lead to the situation in this case where reality will bite all the participants in the butt.

The hormone oxytocin exerts a powerful influence in such cases, powerful enough to evoke parental influences and feelings for all ostensible parents involved.  However, within a relatively short time the confoundedly confusing parent-child relationships always and without fail lead to disastrous outcomes that are often even fatal (most definitely in the case of sheep and especially in regard to “child abuse” by sheep as a result of maternal confusion).

The experimentation with human standards in such matters must come to an end.  Homosexuality is an evolutionary dead-end, most definitely in the animal world in the wild and in husbandry.

Aside from that, I wonder why I can’t find any references to this particular case of  the confusion of homosexual-rights with normalcy in civil society.  Should one not think that this case should have made the news where it took place?

Can anyone help out with some more information on this case?  Is the whole story perhaps just the creation of a new urban myth in the making?

–Walter

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Custodial mother needs help

September 12, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

The names (except mine) shown in the following are not the real names of the parties, to protect the innocent and the guilty.

Hello Mary,

You raised a number of points that call into question Canadian rules and practices pertaining to child support due to someone like you, someone who appears to be a citizen or resident of Canada.

Firstly, I don’t know whether you are in fact residing in Quebec.  That makes it impossible for me to direct you to an organization that may be able to help you or to direct you to someone else who can do so.

If you wish to spare yourself the reading of all I stated, the most important aspect of your complaints is that you did not specify what you need help with.  The unmentioned solution to all of your problems is quite simple and obvious: apply in the court to have it grant fully shared custody to the father of your children.  In addition, you should perhaps objectively examine whether there was an equitable sharing of all of the marital assets in your case and determine whether some of the assets you received should not in all honesty be transferred to your ex.

You raised many concerns.  It will be easier for me to answer each of those by inserting my responses between the lines of your message — which I will now do.

On 11/09/2010 6:27 AM, Mary More wrote:

Subject: deadbeat dads.

The header of your e-mail messages identified the subject as being that you need my help, but, as your message shows, that is not truly what your message is all about.

I am writing to you for assistance in a matter that relates to my children.  I am a single mother of two teenage daughters that I am in custody of.   I have been separated form my husband for the past 5 years and am now divorced.  During this time I have not received any financial support from him in order to help provide for his two girls.

I am not able to direct you to a source of help because you did not tell me which Province you are located in.  I could look that up but would have no guarantee that I would be right.  You are in a better position to determine and identify that.

Why is Canada letting dead beat dads walk freely without having any consequences for their actions.

Perhaps the father of your children is a dead-beat dad, but I would leave the determining of that to the courts.  Even the worst judge would make at least a pretense of listening to both sides of a dispute before he decides where between the two sides the truth may is.  I have not heard anything from the other side in the argument.

The fact that you label your ex-husband a dead-beat dad does not look well.  Did he leave on his own volition, or did you kick him out?

That you allege that Canada has a policy of “letting dead beat dads walk freely without having any consequences for their actions” does not look good either.  The reality of that is that your accusation is not founded on facts.  The statistics on that do not support your accusation.  Moreover, my experiences as someone who has been active for decades in the field of child-support issues don’t support your accusation either.

The reality of those circumstances is that non-custodial fathers are more like than separated non-custodial mothers to pay child support, to pay much more child support and far less likely to default on such payments.  Furthermore, such fathers who default on child-support payments are far more likely than defaulting mothers to be prosecuted and to have to cope with and suffer from draconian enforcement measures.

Is it fair that one parent can walkout without taking any responsibilities providing for his kids?  Is it fair that all the burden of raising kids falls on one parent?

Court hearings ostensibly determine what is fair in such matters.  Unfortunately, such court hearings are seldom fair to fathers.  In the vast majority of divorces the courts grant women the kids, car, cash and castle and send the father packing, often with nothing more than a set of underwear, a toothbrush and a razor.

In the United States many deadbeat dads have their passport revoked, have their driver’s license suspended……. Why doesn’t Canada take drastic measures when it comes to deadbeat dads.

You correctly deem the common practice of depriving fathers who default on child support to be drastic, which of course it is.  How do you figure anyone is more likely to be able to make child-support payments when his constitutional right to free movement has been restricted?  Someone without a driver’s licence is not likely to be able to acquire any jobs that require a valid driver’s licence.  Moreover, he quite likely will be severely handicapped in travelling to a job for which he does not even require a driver’s licence but cannot travel to when no public transportation is available to help him get there.

Moreover, it is not only driver’s licences and passports of fathers defaulting with child support payments that are suspended,  All government-issued licences of defaulting fathers are suspended, which of course severely curtails their ability to earn a living.  Do you feel that those suspensions can possibly be any good for the affected children?

Jake Eke is in a new relationship with a divorced woman Liz Tryhard that has two kids, he is leading a normal life and supports her  kids and helps her renovate the house…..Doesn’t his own kids deserve a dad? Why can’t he help support his own kids? Doesn’t his kids have rights? Is it fair that he has neglected his own kids?

I assume, although you do not directly or indirectly state so, that Jake Eke is the father of the children you had with him.

You sure checked him out good, right?  Is it a criminal offence for him to have entered a relationship with a divorced woman who has children?

I wonder whether he thinks that he is living a normal life.  Is it normal for all men to form relationships with divorced women who have children by other men, after their ex-wives most likely kicked them out?

You told me that he can’t support his own kids because he is considered to be disabled.  If you feel that to be a false and fraudulent claim, telling me about it will not do you or anyone else much good.  Tell the judge in your case.  As they say, you will have to prove that in a court of law.

1) Mr. Eke has declared that he is sick and unable to provide.  If that is the case why isn’t he forced to fill up disability papers and get help from the government .

It is a little inconsistent on your part to call him first a dead beat dad and then to call him Mr.  Do you always do that so as to make sure that the recipients of your complaints about him are first put into the right frame of mind?

I do not know where Mr. Eke lives or whether it is possible for him to make false claims where he lives about disabilities that prevent him from earning a living.  If you are sure that he has engaged in an act of defrauding his government, you should perhaps consider pursuing criminal charges.

2) I am well aware that Mr. Eke is working in the renovation business and gets paid cash.  He keeps claiming that he is building his cliental slowly and that business is slow……….why isn’t he forced to get another job and provide for his kids?????

It amazes me to read how much you know about the man.  Yet you fail to consider the realities of the current state of the economy.  Canada is suffering under the same depression that has the US in its grips.  There is little money available for housing construction.  There is much competition for jobs in the construction trade, and money for home renovations is even harder to come by than is the case with money for new construction jobs.

Getting paid cash for work done is what many men do who have been driven into the underground economy to be able to eke out a living.

Did you not know any of those things before you decided to kick him out?

His daughter who is 17 of age has a job as a bus girl and makes minimum wage, why can’t he work?????

Nothing wrong with that.

What is wrong with this picture??????

I don’t know. You tell me.

I am a kindergarten teacher in a private school, my pay cheque is not enough so after I am done my job at 3 everyday I continue to my second job from 4-7 and than work on weekends, if I can be responsible why can’t he????????

Is being a kindergarten teacher a well-paying job?  If not, do you have a low-paying job because you chose to have it for convenience and not for economic considerations?  Were you forced into taking your job?

If you need a better-paying job, why don’t you get one?  If you expect that the father of your children be forced into getting another job to be able to pay for his kids, why does that not apply to you?

I have to do 3 jobs, get a line of credit, take a loan from the bank refinance my mortgage, seek help from my mom who is living on her pension and be the sole provider for those girls.

So, you indicate that you like to do low-paying jobs, live on credit, and have even your mother support you.  Has your mother not done enough for you yet?

Was being the sole provider for “those girls” your choice?

You have without a doubt some serious problems with matching your income to your expenses.  From what you explained, it appears that your debts are steadily and perhaps even quickly increasing.  The first and most important objective for successful debt management is to have a lot of income left at the end of the month, rather than having a lot of month left at the end of the money.

One way by which you can make a start with that is to cut back on a few things, such as those that you expect your ex-husband to cut back on.  Cancel your subscription to cable TV, cancel your cell phone and cut out all other things that are not absolutely necessary to survival, including the use of your car (sell it) and other such luxuries.

If that is not sufficient to bring your expenses into affordable limits, consider what capital assets you can sell.  If it is cheaper to rent an apartment than to make mortgage payments, you should go for the cheaper alternative.  You have a great advantage in that respect.  No one will expect you to live in a cardboard box under a bridge.  Our society does not expect that from women, while that expectation is at times the only one left for men who have all of their licences revoked.

I did not bring these children to the world by myself,

I hope not.  That would have been a miracle.

On the other hand, it is not difficult to become a father or a mother, while to be a father or a mother is a much more difficult task.  The burden of that is much lightened by sharing it.

It is about time that the government takes action and goes after those dead beat dads who are basically getting away with murder.

The government has done quite a bit to help out women already.  Women live on average six more years (in the US) and 7.2 more years (in Canada) than men do.  Now you want to have your ex prosecuted for murder yet?

I am frustrated at the legal system in the pursuit of this basic right for child support.   I have exhausted my financial capabilities in hiring lawyers to pursue him and have contacted the child support office in Montreal who have indicated that they have no recourse because of his lack of declared income.  So far my experience has been a series of “road blocks” and I am entirely exhausted.

Sorry, but that is pretty much the way it is.  If there is no income, then there is nothing to declare or to confiscate.

It will be up to you to prove in court that his claim to be disabled is fraudulent.  However, even if you should be able to prove that, what do you expect will happen?  Should he go to jail?  Do you think that will ensure that his child support payments can be made?

My ex-spouse is a home renovator and thus much of his work is paid in cash.  The amount of declared income is unknown

You already stated all of that.

since he has not filed an income tax return in the past few years.  I am puzzled at how the governmental system has neglected to look into this case to allow a citizen to neglect his legal obligations toward his family and government.  Why don’t we have any rights?

You told me that the government already looked into his case.  The problem is that you are not happy with what the government found.  However, if you want the father of your children to go to jail, and if you are absolutely sure of your allegations about doing work for cash under the table, then talk to the government and insist they they prosecute him for defrauding the government and for income-tax evasion.  Both are crimes that would warrant incarceration, but you have to prove them in court.  If you fail to prove your case, then you are potentially liable to be convicted of slander and libel.

However, the government has done a lot for women in that respect.  Women can commit the crimes of slander and libel with impunity.

Hoping to hear from you

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter, I will keep trying until my voice his heard and things will change.  It is so unfair.

Mary More

I will post your help request and my responses to Dads & Things. It is our policy to not show the real names of the warring parties in such a case.

Other than that, I tried to offer some advice where I deemed it possible and necessary to give advice.  Unfortunately, you did not actually ask for specific help, but you railed against your ex, you slandered him, you slandered the Government of the Province of Quebec, the Federal Government of Canada, all of Canadian non-custodial fathers, and you vented your frustration.

It seems that all the help you wanted was to have someone listen to you.  I have done that and hope it will make you feel better.

Regards,

Walter Schneider
Fathers for Life
Dads & Things

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