The indifference referred to in the title of this posting relates to the social apathy that permits rampant discrimination in court proceedings that produce fathers expunged from the lives of their children as if they were being cranked out on an assembly line.
One such father wrote to me about a book that he feels will open people’s eyes to the abuses in the courts that are being experienced by men. He thinks the book deserves honorable mention as an eye-opener because it was written by a woman.
Winner Take All : A woman exposes the violation of men’s rights at the hands of family law, by Molly Murphy
I post here my last response in the one-on-one discussion we had on this to encourage him to come out in the open with something that is essentially a public concern that should not be hidden. Here goes:
I accept all you state about the book, and if you condense it a little, so that many other people will want to read it, you will just about have it in the form of a review for which our blog has been made available to you and anyone who wishes to abide by the blog rules. Aside from that, I merely stated that, going by the many comments I read [about the book], I see nothing that indicates that the book calls for any particular changes to Canadian jurisprudence (which in view of the name of the website for the book promotion, www.changefamilylaw.com, seemed to be a bit incongruous). How do you read into that what you did, that I think the book has no merits?
I cannot do it all by myself, and I could not do justice to the book by producing a book review, because I have not read the book. No copy of it has been sent to me, which is what people who wish to promote their books here usually do. If you feel strongly enough that the book is worth it, write about it and post that to Dads & Things. If it will be written well enough, which you are evidently able to do, it can be posted as a guest article and thereby become the beginning of a new discussion thread.
I really wish people would get over their fears and have such debates in public, on our blog, rather than on a one-on-one basis and in private. Do you feel that your convictions will not withstand public exposure?
A public debate would quite likely do more to popularize the book than a book review could. Besides, you are preaching to a member of the choir without anyone else being in hearing distance, but you should try and reach those who know little or nothing about the issues of concern, which is what the blog is for. A one-on-one debate of any topic of that sort is wasteful, considering how many more people could be reached by having it in public.
Alright, now to what you see as a breach in the walls of the fortress of discrimination against men and fathers.
I have no idea of how familiar you are with what Fathers for Life presents, but surely you must have noticed that it contains contributions by many women, contributions of whom many were made many years ago already, for which reason and by your reasoning — that it takes women to make a breach into the wall of denial — you must be familiar with what they wrote and that much of what they wrote is available for free at our website or accessible through it. If the following names have not reached the status of household words in your world, click on the links identified through their names (to mention just some in no particular order):
Note: Do not attempt to read all of the articles identified through the lists of references provided through the following links, but browse through the lists and try to read a few of the articles, so that you can get an appreciation of the issues that the author of your book appears have failed to address (she most definitely failed to impress any of the commenters whose opinions I read, if in fact she had made any suggestions for required changes).
Eeva Sodhi, Erin Pizzey, Dale O’Leary, Karin Jaeckel, Christina Hoff Sommers, Candis McLean, Donna Laframboise, Patricia Pearson, Louise Malenfant, Susan Steinmetz, Antonia Feitz, Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, Maggie Gallagher, Elizabeth Loftus, Patricia Morgan, Judith A. Reisman, Phyllis Schlafly, Gudrun Schwarz, Esther Vilar, and many more.
By the way, the preceding list of women authors contains Canadian women authors, five of them. Do you know who those are?
Still, in spite of what all of those women wrote and of what of that is posted at our website (much more is available elsewhere), somehow I doubt it that you had ever known of all of them — if any. Had you known of them, you would certainly not think that what you read in that book is so novel and so earth-shaking because a woman wrote it.
Nothing will change things, except time and the death of feminism, whereby then the judicial system will adapt to serve the public as required. Until then, feminists are in total and absolute control. I don’t think that the book so dear to you mentioned that. I can’t even recall whether it impressed upon anyone that feminism is the driving force for the discrimination against Canadian men. Can you clear that up for me?