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Man Woman & Myth

Many thanks to George Rolph for pointing me to this.

Man Woman & Myth

Truth, Lies and the War on Men

The website identified by the preceding link is one of the most important ones I have come across in decades.  It answers the concerns of many men’s and fathers rights activists who wrote to me over the years and expressed the wish for a video lectures series on men’s and fathers’ issues.

Well, the video project by Man Woman & Myth is the answer they sought and to which many of them through their efforts tried to contribute more or less successfully.

About the Video Project

The Project

A documentary series, 7 years in the making, exploring all aspects of male-female relations from a man’s point-of-view. Looks at the various reasons behind the negative treatment of men in Western society, including the root cause: Feminism.

Consists of 49 short films on Feminism, Misandry, Equality, Domestic Violence and Education as well as Family issues like Paternity Fraud, Fatherlessness and Reproductive Rights.

As of now I have only been able to quickly browse the website and looked at no more than a quick sample of the 49 videos that are available there.  I am amazed at what has been put together.

I will watch all of the videos in the coming weeks and try to give that top priority.  As I go along with that, I will report on what I find.  It is quite obvious already that not many words at the website are wasted and that all of them are intended to mean what they say.

The first lesson I learned is that the website owner means everything he states in his “Notes on the Video”.  Read all of the notes.  Just as there is no way you can take in all of what the 49 videos present without watching all of them, so you will not be able to successfully understand the problems you may encounter in downloading, file-sharing or watching the videos without reading all of the notes.

As of now, my first impression is, Wow! The Man Woman & Myth video project either used the website of Fathers for Life to develop its scripts or it took its guidance from some of the same sources that guided me and the contributors to Fathers for Life over the years.  The video-project leader quite rightly states:

As a result of years of feminised programming, any film like the ones found here will be a bit like a bucket of cold water in the face in terms of the presentation of what I see as basic reality. Many people will not be used to this degree of forthrightness and honesty and some may be a little shocked.

That is absolutely no exaggeration, at best an understatement, and it is no wonder.  Look at the individuals that were interviewed and whose views are being presented:

Principal Interviewees

  • Angry Harry

Psychologist and prominent Men’s Rights activist, angryharry.com.

  • Erin Pizzey

Author and Domestic Violence expert. Opened the world’s first domestic violence shelter in London and is a patron of the Mankind Initiative Men’s Charity. Author of the book “Prone to Violence”.

  • Stephen Fitzgerald

Former Director and National Organiser of the Mankind Initiative Men’s Charity.

  • Michele Elliott

Founder and Director of Kidscape, a children’s charity, and author of the book “Female Sexual Abuse of Children”.

  • Oliver Curry

Evolutionary Psychologist at the London School of Economics and contributing author to Demos, the independent think tank and research institute.

  • Professor Colin Francome

Professor Emeritus of Medical Sociology, Middlesex University. Author of the book “Improving Men’s Health”.

Alright.  That is all I can say for now.  I will be back about this and present more of my impressions as time goes on.   I hope that if you watch any of the videos, and you absolutely should, you will be able to post a comment here.

Women Enablermolesters

This discussion thread deserves input from many people, it seems, even though it will be difficult to figure out at this start of it where it may lead.

The title of the thread is taken from a message I received a couple of days ago from Stephen Hicks.  Let’s take the definition of the scope of this discussion from that title and try to stay within that.  Any comments that will stray too far from that will be considered to be off-topic.  We need a bit of focus on this, or else we will wind up expanding this discussion to include all and every aspect of human nature.  In general, the blog rules for Dads & Things will apply.

10/29/10

Dear fathersforlife:

I am working locally in Hawaii with my state representatives to change the laws so that men AND women share equal punishment for child sexual molestation, hence women enablermolesters.  Women for too long have felt “entitled” to the kids even after betraying them by either abusing them themselves or blaming their spouse without reporting it.  These women deserve prison and loss of custody of their children to foster care.  They have already betrayed their kids by not speaking up about abuse immediately and their kids will never trust them because of that.  I was abused at home and in the Boy Scouts (Eagle Scout, disabled veteran).  My sister was molested in the home and another relative was molested in the Boy Scouts.  My mother was an enablermolester and acts as though there was no harm no foul - stereotypical thinking by someone who is not facing twenty years in prison for 1st degree child sexual assault.

I have gotten feedback from veterans councelors that women also, are child molesters and physically beat their kids.

If you are able to correspond with me or if you have anything to share, please do.  I have a website: healingpleasuresmodule.com and blog as sterrers on twitter.com, wordpress.com, evolver.net and blogger.com

Sincerely,

Stephen Hicks

I responded 29/10/2010 6:55 PM

Hello Stephen,

Thanks for writing.

I know what you are writing about, having experienced some of it first-hand.

There are quite a few problems that will prevent effective exposure of the issue of sexual and physical abuse by women.  One of those is the inhibition instilled by ingrained western chivalry.  Men will not admit that women can be sexual abusers, and women, knowing better, will not leave their position of superiority and permit that position to be downgraded.  The other is that it is not enough to expose the truth, but it is also necessary to reach the masses and to convince them of what the truth is all about.  When you try to do the latter, the first inhibition immediately kicks into action.  The vast majority of people will not be able to undo thousands of years of indoctrination and social tradition: women are saints, need to be put on pedestals, worshiped and protected from all evil — even from themselves.

Indoctrinations that existed for as long as did civilization cannot be undone overnight and perhaps not even within one or two generations.

About bringing about laws that provide for equal punishment for men and women who commit crimes of equal severity, we have those laws already in place, except for some laws where, confronted with the reality that women are as likely to act criminally as men are (and in some cases far more so), the inevitable consequences, namely that women need to be punished as severely as men required first of all that women are also guilty of committing certain crimes.  You’ve got to be realistic about that.  The problem is with the application of those laws in an objective and equitable fashion.  There is again the obstacle of western chivalry which creates the mental and emotional disability to find women guilty or deserving of equal punishment, or, when those realities proves to be unavoidable, new categories of crimes for women need to be invented to have legal avenues that eliminate the need to treat women as fully equal to men.

A prime example of such a crime is child murder.  For men who commit child murder, there is no escape, no excuse and only the full punishment that the law demands.  For women who commit child murder there is the re-classification of the crime to the category infanticide, a category of which only women can and routinely avail themselves, with punishment very rarely requiring more than a nominal sentence, conditional incarceration, with full release in exchange for time already served before the trial, if any time was served at all.

The history of the contortions that society went through with rationalizing the necessary escape from the reality of women committing almost exactly 70 percent of all child murders (with men on the other hand committing about nine percent of those types of murders — with corresponding and comparable proportions of serious physical child abuse) was addressed in an article I wrote more than ten years ago: “Infanticide or “Post-natal Abortion“”.  The article contains quotes from a chapter of Patrica Pearson’s book, “When She Was Bad”.  You should have a good and careful look at that, so you will realize what needs to be overcome.

If that article is not enough to convince you of the existence of the windmills you attempt to tilt against, have a look at the results of a site-specific search for “infanticide” at our website.

That is the situation with respect to a problem that is well-established and has been proven throughout history.  The problem of exposing women’s guilt in cases of sexual child abuse they commit is far more difficult to overcome.  It has not ever been exposed to even a tiny fraction of the extent of child murders by women.  Men who as children experienced sexual abuse by women (most often by their mothers) will wave it off and at best perhaps claim that it was good for them, while women will refuse to admit that women can be human to such an extent that they can be as beastly or even more so than men can be.

What suggestions do you have for making a full exposure of the reality of that issue; not only that, but to get society to accept that it exists?  For one thing, to my knowledge the problem of child-sexual-abuse by women has not ever been formally researched.  I would welcome solid evidence to the contrary you can provide.

All the best,

Walter Schneider

On 29/10/2010 10:00 PM, Stephen Hicks responded to that:

Hello Mr. Schneider:

Thank you for a wonderful letter. I rushed to Google to find a Canadian statistics- based site that you are probably aware of: child-abuse-effects.com/female-sex-offenders.html  It is a real primer on all the issues you describe.  In Google there are multiple stats on Female Sex Offenders that I’m sure you are aware of.  And cases where wives were convicted or sex acts along with spouses.

My mother was “just doing her job!”  And she still feels she wouldn’t have done things any differently, that is, my step-father had he been caught would have done the time, and she would have retained custody as a teacher and devoted mother.  I lost trust in her and consider that she was an enablermolester although I’ve forgiven her.  Had their been a law to cover her “category of crime”, she would not have such a cavalier attitude about both her oldest kids being molested (I was also beaten up).  However my mother “trolled” for a professional spouse to have three more kids and that was her priority - she was abused also.

As you mention, most young children are killed by women (nearly 2000 in the U.S.last year).  They are young, poor and uneducated predominately.And you’re right, they aren’t considered dangerous murderers like men.

Genocide Laws have changed to include atrocities in War AND Peace-time.  There  is currently a United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (signed by South Africa and not by the U.S).  The U.S. has not signed on to the ICC, International Criminal Court of the UN last I checked.  In Hawaii twenty years ago a domestic abuse case would end up with the men arrested 99% of the time.  Now both are charged and arrested and they can’t drop their allegations.  Men used to do the time for most all drug-related crimes and now women are certainly catching up for lost ground.

I consider kids to be hostages in a child abuse home.  New category of crime - mayhem:  willful and permanent crippling or disfigurement of a person;  needless or willful damage.  There is a statute for mayhem in Hawaii.generally applied to spouses in lieu of aggravated assault.  In Hawaii the age of consent is 14 so coupled with a 35% rate of reporting for abuse, it’s no wonder the whole state has only 3,234 registered sex offenders.  Raising the age has fialed in the past (a cultural thing).

The Hawaii AG told me that of the 60 million kids 14 and under the DOJ Uniform Crime Reports lump them together with aggravated assault (nearly one million last year) rather than elaboating on the types of crime and the risk behavior.  This should change, as the average person doesn’t want to think about Church and Boy Scout abuse and certainly doesn’t consider their neighbors child abusers.  Emotional battering is physical abuse and could qualify as mayhem.  Accessory to child abuse is no different than accessory to murder.

You know the statistics on child abuse from your research and the emotional scars that are caused by parental figures, close relatives and close friends over the years.  They finally got Al Capone on tax evasion didn’t they?  Your idea of new categories of crimes coupled with creative sentencing have a lot of merit - I don’t have illusions about rapid changes in the system.  Millions are writing about their experiences for healing purposes and to leave a legacy of sorts to others.  Both my sister and I are in our late fifties and still healing - the step-father committed suicide in 1966.

My website is a famiily community service project of sorts, harping on the issues and guiding people to resource lists besides the government.  If women were charged with serious crimes related to child sexual molestation and beating and emotional battering, it would seriously affect the tax base of the United States.  The U.S. needs a Natiional Level Department of Childrens Affairs as our Department of Health and Human Services is spread out all over the place and doesn’t fund child welfare properly or truant officers for that matter (U.S. high school drop out rate of 30%, President Obama mentioned boostup.org)

I’ve received compliments for including your conservative site on my website and I was impressed with it and haven’t studied it.  I would love to have a better organized website but am a novice and my relatives are very busy (I am a disabled veteran and happy with life, knowing I can only do so much without being a glutton for punishment)

The issue of Man/Woman Hate is a good research project along with that of researching just how many children are molested by women.  I believe much aggravated assault is caused by women hating men for what they do to the children.  Women hate themselves AND what they allow to happen in the house.  And they definitely hate men.

You’ve given me a very good idea - all the facts are in Google, they haven’t been presented very well - piece-meal is not very convincing.  I don’t want to see every child abuser in prison, but they should pay a career price, a monetary damage and lose custody of their children at least.  Twenty years probation is a VERY difficult task in creative sentencing.  In Hawaii, 1st degree sexual assault of a child (no penetration alleged) mandates a twenty year prison term.  Quite often numerous crimes have been whittled down by a plea bargain to one count.

I’ll keep in touch, thanks for caring.

Sincerely,

Stephen Hicks

My response, 30/10/2010 10:15 AM

Hello Stephen,

Thanks for writing back.

There is much in your response that I agree with  (actually, everything except that Google is a good source for research on violence statistics), but some of it and of what I stated earlier requires more comments and input by others.

Would you agree that our exchange should be posted as a discussion thread at Dads & Things?  Unfortunately, few people make comments there.  I have no idea why that is.  Both our website and blog have plenty of visitors, but few people comment that they post to the blog.  I wish that it were different, and an exchange of ideas like the one we are having may be just the thing to get more people to offer their opinions.

On the other hand, I receive a fair number of e-mails  and phone calls from people who write to me and call about various topics, but that is a bit of a waste of time or, better, a certain amount of hiding the truth from many.  Our blog would help much more to spread the message, which, I once thought, would be a good reason for launching it, so that the discussion would be brought out into the open.

Sorry for not being able to get into more detail on any of this right now.  I will get back to it after I get back from our seniors club facilities, where I will have to do a bit of tidying up to get things ready for a group of people who will hold a memorial service there this afternoon.

I shall return to this later today.

All the best for now,

Walter

Stephen Hicks said, 30/10/2010 5:22 PM

Subject: Appropriate laws and creative sentencing for female child sexual enablermolesters

Hello Mr. Schneider:

You are correct about Google, I was less than impressed.  I did find fathermag.com  female-offenders.com/bibliography.html  and crime.about.com/od/sex/ig/female-pedophiles/

You eloquently stated the basic female issue regarding the long-standing pattern of child abuse and I’m not in a position to do a scholarly study.  I can work locally with my representatives to pass legislation leading to fairness - as you point out when you say that the women don’t usually do the actual crime.  “I was just doing my job!” and accessory to 1st degree child sexual assault spanning years hold some weight and qualify for mayhem and hostage-taking and cruel and unusual punishment, however.

Kids definitely are hostages in a child abuse-mayhem household.  Now that most kids have cell phones, I’d like to see the child welfare hotline phone number on their ID Tags.

A large number of people really don’t want to deal with the issue but it affects every aspect of our society and it’s illegal, not morally wrong or a sign of weakness in character.

I think ten to twenty years probation and loss of custody of children would be a creative non Draconian punishment and momentous deterrent for scofflaw women that are enablermolesters.  I believe at least 5-10% of our sixty million children aged 14 and under are being sexually molested and/or beaten and emotionally abused, according to specific guidelines..  That’s a huge number.  There are only 390 women in prison in New York for child sexual abuse and about 9000 men.  More than half are back in prison within a couple of years following release.  Note:  recently in Hawaii a woman care-giver was given twenty years in prison for severe child abuse (her abuse was demonic).

Although I wasn’t too impressed with Google there was one study saying that there are 64,000 female child molesters in the United Kingdom (co.uk/society/2009/oct/o4/uk-female-child-sex-offenders).  China and India each have approximately 100 million unmarried men due to infanticide.

In a nation that spends $2.1 trillion plus on health care and $1.3 trillion plus on VA health care, we should go easy on emotional battering which leads to aggravated assault in adults and a whole set of issues for children.

On the lighter side, speaking of music besides youtube, you might try pandora.com, kaparadio.com (Hawaiian) or ananda.org (Hindu).  I’m in great health and my sister and I are looking 25 years ahead, we shall see!  (she’s a performance artist and professor at San Diego State University).

Sincerely,

Stephen Hicks

Any additional responses by Stephen, me or anyone else will be posted as comments to this discussion thread.  You will have to subscribe to this blog to be able to post comments.  That is necessary to prevent spam.  –Walter

Wife, 74, found fit to stand trial

Well, it can’t be a full moon.  Looking at the sky last night told me that it isn’t, and the calendar tells me the same thing.  Nevertheless, here is another story in which the wife, the killer who is alleged to have shot her husband death, placed him in an incinerator so the coyotes would not eat him.  I am not kidding, but, of course, she is another victim, and the real culprit, “honestly, Your Honour,” is the dastardly husband who is not around any longer to testify on his own behalf.

Wife, 74, found fit to stand trial

Accused of shooting abusive husband, placing corpse inside incinerator

By Alexandra Zabjek, edmontonjournal.com
October 30, 2010

Read more

It never fails.  When men kill someone there is never an excuse, and when women murder someone,  they are never at fault.  So, let’s see what will happen in this case.

Will there be a “guilty” verdict?  If so, will the judge sentence the alleged murderess to serve time in prison?

Experience tells us that perhaps there will be a guilty verdict, but that there also are mitigating circumstances that will be used to rationalize that the poor woman is really the victim in her case and had no choice but to defend herself by killing her husband, for which reason it would truly be a great injustice to have her serve any time in prison at all.

Besides, did she not do a service to humanity by killing him?  After all, he stank, because, as she said, honestly, Your Honour, he had not taken a bath for 25 years.

As she said, her husband of 50 years had “threatened to shoot her, cut her throat and to kill the two grandsons who lived with them…,” with the implication being that she had no other way to save herself. She just had to shoot him.

Devoted wife burns her husband to death

Just about missed the latest on that one.

A DEVOTED wife who fatally set her husband alight while trying to burn a mark on his penis has been acquitted of murder.

After deliberating for nine hours over two days, a Supreme Court jury today found Rajini Narayan not guilty, by majority verdict, of murder.

They instead ruled her crime - throwing petrol and a lit candle onto the back of her husband, Satish - was manslaughter.

That sort of devotion anyone would want to do without. Still, she got her wish, she lit his penis. So, there was a bit of collateral damage. That does not matter much, besides, her husband is not longer around to offer his opinion on her devotion.

Rajini Narayan cleared of murder, guilty of manslaughter for burning husband over penis argument

AN ADELAIDE woman has been cleared of murdering her husband after snapping, throwing petrol on him and setting him on fire when he scorned her plan to save their marriage by purifying his penis.

But Rajini Narayan, 46, was found guilty of manslaughter on Wednesday, at the end of her South Australian Supreme Court trial for murdering 47-year-old Satish Narayan in December 2008.

Hmmm, she purified his penis, and she just happened to have the gasoline on hand in their bedroom to make a good job of the purification.

That was right after “She snapped and threw petrol on his back when he turned away from her saying “no you won’t, you fat, dumb bitch”,” upon which she probably must have responded like this, “My dearest husband, to whom I am so exceedingly devoted, permit me to clean the tip of your penis,” and proceeded to light him on fire. “It was just an accident, your Honor, honestly, I am telling the truth.” Yup, I am sure that’s how it was. The poor woman and the horror of it all. I hope that she comes out of it alright. Things like that can leave permanent emotional scars — you know?

All that remains to be done now is the sentencing.  What do you think?  I predict a conditional sentence with time off for time already served.

You think that is outrageous?  What sort of a fiend are you?  Come on now, don’t you think that the poor woman has suffered enough already?

US mum ‘killed twin girls with samurai sword’

9NEWS
ninemsn.com

16:00 AEST Wed Oct 27 2010

By ninemsn staff

A Californian mother has faced court accused of killing her twin daughters with a samurai sword. [sic]

Monica McCarrick, 28, allegedly stabbed her three-year-old girls, set fire to her apartment and then stabbed herself on October 12….(Full Story)

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For more of today’s crop of stories about women’s violence gleaned from mensactivism.org, check these links (note: incomplete list; see complete list):

Feministing comments on mother accused of murdering baby over farmville game

UK: Woman charged with subway push murder

Lawyer for ‘Hiccup Girl’ May Use Tourette’s Syndrome Defense in Murder Case

Baby Injured During At-Home Circumcision

Woman charged with baby murders

Woman pleads guilty to murdering husband in long-awaited trial open

“Hiccup Girl” arrested for murder

Community service for girl who made false rape claim

Report: Woman accused of false rape claims heads to court today

Dallas Mother Ruled Insane, Not Guilty of Throwing Sons From Overpass

China: Mother who beat daughter to death for not memorising a poem spared prison

Australia: Mother jailed for prostituting teenage daughter

Australia: Female drunk-driver of crashed vehicle had children in boot (trunk)

Scottish police record record number of male victims of domestic abuse

Australia: Couple jailed for sex with son aged nine

Australia: Female retirement home worker charged with sexually assaulting elderly man

Australia: Penis burning wife guilty of manslaughter

Canada: Teacher found not guilty of sex charges

Mom kills baby, for interrupting FarmVille computer game

The Florida Times Union
Jacksoncille.com

Jacksonville mom shakes baby for interrupting FarmVille, pleads guilty to murder

Posted: October 27, 2010 - 11:13am

By David Hunt

A Jacksonville mother charged with shaking her baby to death has pleaded guilty to second-degree murder.

Alexandra V. Tobias, 22, was arrested after the January death of 3-month-old Dylan Lee Edmondson. She told investigators she became angry because the baby was crying while she was playing a computer game called FarmVille on the Facebook social-networking website….(Full Story)

An update to the story explains:

According to court records, her child abuse arrest violated a six-month probation she began serving just a few weeks before after pleading no contest to a domestic battery charge.

There is nothing that explains whom she had been battering, but it could not have been her baby-son, as he was just three months of age when she killed him.

Seeking Identity of Anonymous Sperm-Donor

LifeSiteNews.com
Tuesday October 26, 2010

Woman Seeks Identity of Anonymous Sperm-Donor Father

By Patrick B. Craine

VANCOUVER, British Columbia, October 26, 2010 (LifeSiteNews.com) – In a case showing the painful consequences faced by children conceived through artificial reproduction, a British Columbia woman is petitioning the courts to find out the identity of her father, an anonymous sperm donor….(Full Story)

Emotional effects of homosexuality

Hello [name not shown],

Thank you for your letter dated October 5, 2010.  I received the letter today.

You described your intentions to prepare for a 45-minute presentation on “the emotional effects homosexuality may have,” on individuals, I presume, although in your opening paragraph you emphasized that you are “focusing  on how being homosexual might affect a person’s daily life.“  Those two perspectives are related.  Still, each would require a unique and different scope of your inquiries, scopes that overlap in some areas.

Furthermore, you asked whether I could send to you “any informational materials, referrals, and/or suggestions” that I “might be able to share on this subject.”

What I can share in that respect is freely accessible at the website of Fathers for Life. You can find any material or information that is available there in relation to homosexuality by entering relevant keywords, subjects or topics of interest into the site-specific search-engine input field that is shown in the upper-right-hand corner of virtually every web page at the our website.

You must have accessed some of that material already.  However, as you asked for referrals, may I ask why you feel that the citations and sources shown in the accessible reference material are insufficient and prompt you to request the identification of additional referrals?

As to suggestions I may be able to make, you may wish to consider whether your presentation should not also include information that will put the consequences of homosexuality you wish to describe into a broader context, such as to identify causes of homosexual behaviour as well as health effects (some of which are without a doubt deadly) other than merely some emotional aspect and their effects of interest to you?

That would not require many words other than a short statement that those issues do exist and need to be of great concern, but that you put them aside for now, so as to permit you to focus on the issues that interest you.  You may also wish to explain why you deem the emotional aspect of homosexuality — selected aspects that interest you — to be more important than all others.  One has to wonder if your exclusion of the much shorter life spans of homosexuals and their so much earlier likelihood of death should not be mentioned in your presentation.  Surely, there is hardly a more powerful emotional effect affecting anyone than one’s own or a loved one’s early demise.

Regards,

Walter Schneider
Fathers for Life
Dads & Things

Belfort Bax on jurisprudence and men’s issues

Just in case you never read anything about or by Belfort Bax, here are important links of interest to anyone who wishes to know more about feminism.

The social revolution that began in the 1960s and with the credit for which second-wave-feminism adorns itself is nothing new.  It is the final stage of a social revolution that is a continuation of a trend made possible through the chivalry by “men” of the Victorian age (politicians, judges, lawyers, writers and journalists) who did their best to give women — in the name of liberating them from male oppression — more and more privileges at the expense of common men.  In that fashion The Fraud of Feminism (1913, by Belfort Bax) has been at work already for hundreds of years  to bring about The Legal Subjection of Men (1908, by Belfort Bax). (From: Feminist family politics and their roots in communist ideology)

The Fraud of Feminism and The Legal Subjection of Men are archived web pages and can be somewhat slow to load, but both are worth the wait if waiting should be necessary.

Child apprehension because of a bagel

Child Protective Services in Pennsylvania removed a one-day old baby from her mother because of a bagel.

Where was the father?   No father was mentioned in the story, and the moral is: fathers don’t matter.