September 3, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Judge dismisses Lloyd emergency protective order (EPO), due to the ex-wife having made false allegations, but as of now no decision has been made as to which of the two parents will have custody of the child at the core of the dispute.  That, according to the judge in Fleming County District Court, is up to the circuit court to decide.

The Ledger Independent
2 September 2010

Judge dismisses Lloyd EPO
By Misty Maynard, Staff Writer Ledger Independent

FLEMINGSBURG - Questions concerning custody of a daughter linger, but an emergency protective order secured by Fleming County Hospital Chief Executive Officer Davie Lloyd against ex-husband Brett Lloyd was dismissed during a hearing Thursday in Fleming County District Court….

During the EPO hearing, Hill pressed the judge for a ruling as to whether Brett Lloyd could secure the child, citing an order from the Montana First Judicial District Court that amended the parenting plan established at the time of the couple’s divorce. However, Probst said the issue of custody should be addressed in circuit court.

“Where it goes, I don’t control,” he said.

The original parenting plan established in 2004 allowed Brett Lloyd visitation every other weekend and for two weeks in the summer, as well as on alternating holidays. The new parenting plan, based on the new Montana ruling, established that the child should reside with Brett Lloyd, “subject to Davie’s parenting time, which shall be supervised and in the state of Montana.”

The new plan requires Davie Lloyd to have supervision during visitation because she “deliberately and maliciously” interfered with her ex-husband’s parental rights.

“Further, Davie is considered a ‘flight risk,’ having moved the minor child from one state to another and refusing to inform Brett of her physical location,” according to the plan….(Full Story)

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September 3, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Capitol Weekly (U.S.A.)
2 September 2010

Women claim tribes won’t enforce child support
By Malcolm Maclachlan

When Christina Brown got together with her soon-to-be ex-husband in the early 1990s, they were poor. But he’s a member of the Viejas Band of Kumeyaay Indians. When the tribe’s casino opened up a few years later, the checks started rolling in, around $20,000 a month. They moved out of their mobile home into a big house. Nice cars and a 34-foot Fleetwood motor home followed.

After what she described as a worsening domestic situation, she left him in 2007. Brown, who noted that she once had a drug problem, said she’s been clean for years now.

But in other ways, her present looks a lot like her past. She’s on welfare and food stamps, living with her mother in a two-bedroom house, and running four payments behind on her car.

And there’s another crucial difference: she’s responsible for the children.  She has five over all — one before her husband, three with him and one after. The three youngest live with her, including two from her husband, but she says he hasn’t paid child support in years, despite the fact that he still gets thousands of dollars a month from the tribe.

“The court ordered him to make all these payments,” Brown said. “But I couldn’t garnish them.”….

“I didn’t mean for it to happen this way,” Brown said. “Trust me. I would have never had kids if I knew I was going to go this way. I would have gone straight education.”….(Full Story)

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Given that being a welfare mom as a career choice did not work out well for Christina Brown,  why does she not just give custody of her children to their respective fathers?  It looks as if at least two of her children would certainly be substantially better off.

She can then still pursue a career in education.  She is still young enough for that.  People have done it when they were in their seventies.  Perhaps it will not even cost her a dime to do so if things are similar to the way they are in Canada in that respect.  Status natives in Canada can obtain university degrees for free, with the government footing the bill.  They will not be required to run up the sometimes horrendous debts in doing so that normal mortals must labour under.

Mind you, it takes work to obtain a degree, and then it takes more work to earn a living, but, if the “government” pays for the degree, why not?   It is good for the self-esteem.

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September 3, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Heidi wrote:

what about mothers for life.????

I am quite resentful for this, as it is a one sided  coin…   I am a single mother.. who left an emotionally abusive relationship.. where my children were being hit.  My ex stopped bothering with the kids.. of which only one was his… years passed… and he was reported for income tax fraud .. he spent multitudes of thousands  of dollars.  To get custody of my son…. separate him from his siblings and mother… only to be fired into programs to enable his father to continue the same life he had before… no alterations to my exes life at all… just  child care programs added to the bills. MY son was removed from my home and taken   4 days drive away .. into another country. My child must feel like he has been kidnapped by  his estranged father…. the one who made the choice to  walk out and bandon him years before. The father that didnt call..the father that didnt show up for visits… and when he did..  he had his new woman… nice….  Some fathers are not worthy of their kids.

As Always…… Heidi

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Response by F4L:

Heidi, you don’t specifically state what you are resentful about, but, judging by the header of your message, it seems that you resent the name of the website of Fathers for Life.

Unfortunately, it is not possible to respond to any valid causes of your resentfulness, because the ostensible reasons you seem to offer are complaints about your ex-husband, for which we must apparently just take your word, as we do not get to know his side of the argument.  Still, far be it from me to become involved in your divorce-and-custody squabbles, as even the worst judge makes at least a pretense of where between the stories by the two sides in such an argument the truth may be.

However, you project from your displeasure with your ex to make a moral judgment on others, and from there you make a leap of faith by using your displeasure with your ex to fuel your displeasure with the name “Fathers for Life”.  How do your personal problems fit into that, and why do they make you resent the name of the website of Fathers for Life?

Heidi, you live in a free country.  Nothing prevents you from fighting back with a website of your own that you may wish to call “Mothers for Life”.  It would be for a good cause.  Go for it!

–Walter

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