Comments on: The Catalog of Anti-Male Shaming Tactics http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2009/01/09/the-catalog-of-anti-male-shaming-tactics/ About fathers and families, and the war against them. Tue, 22 May 2012 20:22:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Samuel Polhamus http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2009/01/09/the-catalog-of-anti-male-shaming-tactics/#comment-12096 Samuel Polhamus Sun, 11 Jan 2009 23:17:29 +0000 http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2009/01/09/the-catalog-of-anti-male-shaming-tactics/#comment-12096 Although not specifically addressed but obviously inferred, chivalry, or the lack of it, are an equal fault of men - damned if you do and damned if you don't. "How come you didn't open the door for me?" and the "I am perfectly capable myself" - as the feminist agenda would seemingly tend to instruct. Not unlike the feminist inspired California domestic abuse law addressed in Mr. Szabo's film, "Father Figure"; arguing with your wife is "abuse" or if you choose instead to keep quiet, the silent treatment is "abuse" as well. As unorganized and "independent expected" men, we have allowed the feminist agenda to put us in the preposterous position of always being wrong and never being right. As men we are expected to be tough, yet "being tough" is reason for the frail and generally physically inferior women to "run for the hills" in fear of the "tough guy" that now makes them "feel" unsafe and threatened. If we are not tough and open up our sensitive side (metro-sexual was the look and attitude my wife wanted - a gay guy who thirsts for women) we now become wimps worthy of degrading disdain. At the start of my divorce, my father uttered to me, what was then considered by me, an utterly incomprehensible remark, "Society started going to hell the minute it became OK for women to pursue men. In my day, men were the chasers and the women were supposed to fight them off to defend their virtue." Truthfully, in a truly "enlightened society", neither sex should be overly zealous in an attempt to "bed" the other. Of course, this "enlightened society" would soon become devoid of any relationships if either sex is viewed with contempt for their immoral attempt to create a sexual relationship. In my fire service career, whereby our Department has hired some single good-looking and in shape male firefighters, I am amazed at how these guys don't have to chase at all. Their phones ring of the hook from women content with a "physical only" relationship who just like to "hook up". I worry about these guy's STD futures, and even more importantly, their ability to ever trust women given many of these girls have boyfriends and want to keep their "hook ups" secret - as well as the psychic of these women should they someday ever discover morality. So it appears my Dad was indeed right. As Libertarian John Stossel once commented on a piece about the battle of the sexes some years back (I believe as a correspondent for ABC's 20/20), (paraphrasing) "The difference between the sexes should be celebrated versus lamented." Although not specifically addressed but obviously inferred, chivalry, or the lack of it, are an equal fault of men - damned if you do and damned if you don’t. “How come you didn’t open the door for me?” and the “I am perfectly capable myself” - as the feminist agenda would seemingly tend to instruct.

Not unlike the feminist inspired California domestic abuse law addressed in Mr. Szabo’s film, “Father Figure”; arguing with your wife is “abuse” or if you choose instead to keep quiet, the silent treatment is “abuse” as well.

As unorganized and “independent expected” men, we have allowed the feminist agenda to put us in the preposterous position of always being wrong and never being right. As men we are expected to be tough, yet “being tough” is reason for the frail and generally physically inferior women to “run for the hills” in fear of the “tough guy” that now makes them “feel” unsafe and threatened. If we are not tough and open up our sensitive side (metro-sexual was the look and attitude my wife wanted - a gay guy who thirsts for women) we now become wimps worthy of degrading disdain.

At the start of my divorce, my father uttered to me, what was then considered by me, an utterly incomprehensible remark, “Society started going to hell the minute it became OK for women to pursue men. In my day, men were the chasers and the women were supposed to fight them off to defend their virtue.”

Truthfully, in a truly “enlightened society”, neither sex should be overly zealous in an attempt to “bed” the other. Of course, this “enlightened society” would soon become devoid of any relationships if either sex is viewed with contempt for their immoral attempt to create a sexual relationship.

In my fire service career, whereby our Department has hired some single good-looking and in shape male firefighters, I am amazed at how these guys don’t have to chase at all. Their phones ring of the hook from women content with a “physical only” relationship who just like to “hook up”. I worry about these guy’s STD futures, and even more importantly, their ability to ever trust women given many of these girls have boyfriends and want to keep their “hook ups” secret - as well as the psychic of these women should they someday ever discover morality.

So it appears my Dad was indeed right. As Libertarian John Stossel once commented on a piece about the battle of the sexes some years back (I believe as a correspondent for ABC’s 20/20), (paraphrasing) “The difference between the sexes should be celebrated versus lamented.”

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