Comments on: My Dad at Christmas http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2006/12/21/my-dad-at-christmas/ About fathers and families, and about the war against them. Mon, 06 Oct 2008 14:19:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Joel Johnston http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2006/12/21/my-dad-at-christmas/#comment-115 Joel Johnston Mon, 05 Feb 2007 05:18:18 +0000 http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2006/12/21/my-dad-at-christmas/#comment-115 I'm sorry to read this message so late. I hope that you were able to find a quality way of enjoying Christmas without your most loved family member - your son. In the future, and advice to many others who may feel the same way in the future. You can't change the moment, and as much as we miss them and have a desire to be with them, it is in their best interest for us to move on into a healthy way of spending the holiday. If you can't be with them now, you need to remain healthy until the day comes that you can. Self destructive ways of living are not healthy for you or your children. So, what puts a smile on your childrens fame more than anything at Christmas? What ever it is, find a way to do it for others. Example - How about playing Santa at the local Hospital to the kids who are not at home for Christmas. How about volunteering at a shelter to hand out Christmas Dinners. How about going to a home for foster children or an orphanage and spend a day with kids in need. How about spending your days building something special for your child that you can save for them for another day. Something that only you would know is special to them - that only you could shared with them. Save it for the next time you see them, and tell them you worked on it Christmas day, pretending you were with them making it together. Take notes of what you had to do, so they can see the thought that was put into their special gift. I'm sure you can think of your own in your own line of giving. But do give, if you were the child, what would you wish on your parent - make sure you have made your child's dreams come true for what they would want for you, and never tell them how depressed you were - you need to help them get through this day of loss, you are their father, their rock that they will always need in their life. Joel Johnston http://WashingtonSharedParenting.com I’m sorry to read this message so late. I hope that you were able to find a quality way of enjoying Christmas without your most loved family member - your son.

In the future, and advice to many others who may feel the same way in the future. You can’t change the moment, and as much as we miss them and have a desire to be with them, it is in their best interest for us to move on into a healthy way of spending the holiday.

If you can’t be with them now, you need to remain healthy until the day comes that you can. Self destructive ways of living are not healthy for you or your children.

So, what puts a smile on your childrens fame more than anything at Christmas? What ever it is, find a way to do it for others. Example - How about playing Santa at the local Hospital to the kids who are not at home for Christmas. How about volunteering at a shelter to hand out Christmas Dinners. How about going to a home for foster children or an orphanage and spend a day with kids in need.

How about spending your days building something special for your child that you can save for them for another day. Something that only you would know is special to them - that only you could shared with them. Save it for the next time you see them, and tell them you worked on it Christmas day, pretending you were with them making it together. Take notes of what you had to do, so they can see the thought that was put into their special gift.

I’m sure you can think of your own in your own line of giving. But do give, if you were the child, what would you wish on your parent - make sure you have made your child’s dreams come true for what they would want for you, and never tell them how depressed you were - you need to help them get through this day of loss, you are their father, their rock that they will always need in their life.

Joel Johnston
http://WashingtonSharedParenting.com

]]> By: [Name deleted] http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2006/12/21/my-dad-at-christmas/#comment-65 [Name deleted] Sat, 23 Dec 2006 00:04:35 +0000 http://blog.fathersforlife.org/2006/12/21/my-dad-at-christmas/#comment-65 <p>Greetings,</p> <p> <em>The text of this comment had to be deleted to secure the privacy of the sender. --F4L</em></p> Greetings,

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