Starving for Justice

July 29, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

STARVING FOR JUSTICE.

Guest story by George Rolph

Writing in the Independent Johann Hari reported on July 2nd 2010 how Goldman Sachs and “its swarm of Wall Street allies” had been causing massive starvation and riots around the world by trading contracts made between farmers and traders as futures on the stock exchange.  (You can read his excellent piece here:  http://www.independent.co.uk/opinion/commentators/johann-hari/johann-hari-how-goldman-gambled-on-starvation-2016088.html  )

In the article referenced above you can read the story of Abiba Getaneh. She is an Ethiopian mother. Pay attention to what she had to say about her hunger: “I felt like battery acid had been poured into my stomach as I starved….” She goes on to talk about the effects on her children too. My readers will, I am sure. feel horrified that the acts of some powerfully greedy little men and women in the West can have such terrible effects on people all over the world as their starvation buys these disgusting dead-hearted people a new work of art to hang in their massive houses or perhaps, a nice diamond bracelet to impress associates with.

This week I spent over four days with a man who knows the terrible pain that Abiba Getaneh and her children went through. He is feeling it right now. Today. His pitifully thin body has began to eat into the muscles because there is no fat left to consume as a source of energy. In his hollowed out face his eyes burn with a revolutionary zeal. His lips are set in grim determination. His skin, burnt by the sun to the colour of dried tobacco, is stretched tightly over his weakening skeleton. Every now and again his head and body lurch to the side as he retches. All that leaves his stomach is the water he has been drinking. Today, his pain has lasted twenty seven days and no end to it is in sight.

The differences between this man and Abiba are many and varied. There are, however, some differences that are deeply tragic. Abiba’s pain has ended now and she can eat again. His pain has not ended. It is fashionable for many in the rich West to feign concern for the Abiba’s of this world and to discuss her plight and those of her countrymen and women around the table at their dinner parties. Others have a genuine concern and will work themselves into the floor trying to get food aid to the starving all around the world. Still more will pour their money into charities like Oxfam, Save The Children, Christian Aid and others, with the poor giving proportionately more than the rich and not trying to claim it back on their taxes. This mans pain does not qualify for aid and even donations have been thin on the ground for his supporters. Unlike the Woman’s Movement who receive millions of pounds in aid from the government, the police and the public every year, the Men’s Movement get nothing and that is a quite deliberate political decision.

It has been ever thus. When I was once starving hungry it was a poor man and his wife who fed me from their meagre food supply. The rich turned away, muttering that I should, “Get a b****y job” and then walking on. Happy that they had voiced the outrage of their ‘enlightened’ selves, their colleagues and political masters but never once asking me how I came to be in that mess. Talking to me was beyond their Pharisaical nature. It was easier to walk by on the other side.

This starving man is called Len Miskulin. He is 59 years old. A deeply wounded father. An ex hard working and successful BT engineer, he is on a hunger strike and he is one of those sitting opposite Parliament on the pavement. He too has suffered the insults shouted from passing cars that he should “Get a b****y job.” Insults resulting from feelings stirred up by irresponsible journalists and the many thieving politicians in Westminster who would rather forget their own version of benefit fraud. Len receives no benefits from the State but loudmouthed, self righteous fools in passing cars do not know that.

Originally from Croatia he has been in this country for thirty five years. It was this country that stamped all over him. It was this country that invented the system that ripped his heart out. It was the people of this country that, by their complicit silence in the face of staggering pain and injustice for thousands of fathers like Len, walked by on the other side. It is the people and the governors of those people who allow thousands of men like Len Miskulin to suffer unbearable pain because of their inflexibility and sheer naked, ideologically driven greed, that seems coupled with a staggering degree of misplaced hate. Unlike Abiba there is no fashionable concern for Len. He is homeless. He is starving because no one cares. He is starving because of a deeply held grief that will not leave his soul in peace. When that battery acid pain that Abiba felt tears into Len’s stomach lining it serves only to bring to mind his two children that he has not seen in ten years and to increase his determination to go another day without food.

At the State opening of Parliament Len watched as the Queen and her retinue drove past in the carriages of State. He wondered if she noticed him sitting outside of his tent in clear view of the road as she went by. A huge sign telling any who would look his way that he was starving himself because of her judges and her politicians.

Did she look his way? I have no idea. What I do know is that she is not ignorant of what is being done to men like Len. Fathers4Justice campaigners who stormed her London palace in 2004 made sure of that. The contrast between her condition, described at the time by journalist Phillip Johnston writing in the Telegraph as, looking like “a picture of health” and the pitiful condition of Len Miskulin could not be greater.

Len Miskulin. Starving for Justice.

As I contemplated that contrast I amused myself with a fantasy to help break the depressing reality of Len’s condition threatening my mind. I imagined the impossible. The Queens carriage coming to a halt opposite the green at Westminster and her royal figure alighting from the carriage and walking — in all of her robes of state — over to the mess of tents. There she walked among some of her people who were, for a myriad of personal and political reasons, not enjoying life in her country. In my imagination I saw her leaning forwards to speak to Len who made no attempt to rise from his seat and saying, “And what do you do?”  Then I saw in my mind, Len push himself painfully from his folding chair and stand proudly before her on unsteady feet. I saw him fix his eyes upon hers with an unwavering and piercing gaze and tell her, respectfully, but forcefully, “I starve, your majesty, because your courts stole my children and stripped me of all my assets and my children’s inheritance.” I wondered if she would blush. I finally decided that she would not. Her mind would probably have wandered away from Len a split second after she had asked a question whose answer she had no interest in. Perhaps I do her an injustice. I doubt it. She has done nothing to show any support for the nations fathers since the feminist inspired war on them began. There is no capital to be gained for her, unlike during the war when her parents visited the bombed out buildings in the East End and announced that they could now look people in the eye. Somehow, between then and now the Royal family have lost their humanity and common touch. The Queens heart has hardened and she no longer cares except where she must pretend too care for reasons of diplomacy or publicity.

On Sunday evening I travelled from my home in Bromley to Len’s tent in Westminster to sit with him through the night in case the bailiffs came to turf him off the green so that Boris Johnson and those other stalwarts of humanity in the Houses of Commons and Lords would have a little less to complain about. I knew that the bailiffs would come with the police to back them up. I also knew that things might get nasty and if they did, the police would have their black uniformed thugs nearby at hand to stamp on those who resisted and possibly those who could not resist, like Len. I was determined to do what I could to passively protect him from any blows that might come his way. His health could not have stood a Tasering or kick to the belly from a psychopathic thug in armour. I wanted to try and see that such a thing did not happen to him. The bailiffs did not come that night. Instead, the police drove periodically around the green at four in the morning with the sirens screaming in an effort to make sure that no one slept. Coupled with the fact that they had made sure many of the toilets nearby were shut and, I am told, all water stand pipes had been shut off, who ever gave those orders to those unthinking robots who carried them out were like nasty children bullying the helpless for fun. This is what our country has come too and it is also the reason the camp on the green exists at all. Earlier in the day I had heard one of the peace camps inhabitants speaking to a foreign journalist who had said, with a nod towards the House of Commons, “Those people think you are nuts.” “Yes well.” The hippy replied. “Like attracts like so they could be right”

Today, Len is still there. He is enduring another day of self imposed agony because he has no other way to express his rage at what has been done to him. Unlike the feminists, the amorphous International Men’s movement has refrained from using violence to get its message across. Today, like every other day he has been there, the common tourists will come and speak to him and he will tell his tale for the thousandth time. They will photograph him and sympathise and hopefully, go home to tell their friends in their own country how the once most democratic country in the world is sliding into barbarism against its own fathers.

A few days ago, a male teacher led a sizable party of school children onto the green. They gathered around Len and began firing their questions at him in a polite and slightly bewildered way. Unable to raise his voice above the din of the traffic and weak from the sun and the corrosive acid eating at his stomach lining, I spoke up for him. As I told his story and answered their questions the teacher said nothing. He was letting the children experience the raw emotion of the situation for themselves. I was aware of the need not to frighten the children but also, not to shield them from the realities of life in the country they live in. I saw the shock in their eyes and knew they would talk about what they had heard to their parents and friends. Getting the message out to those who still have hearts that can feel compassion for their fellow man. Before they left I told them that their generation needed to find a better way than our incompetent generation had for dealing with the issues of family breakups. Len and I thanked them for asking their questions and being interested. Something we could not say to a single MP. One bright looking young girl replied, “No. Thank you both for being brave and telling us.” I was deeply moved. Both by the children’s natural concern for another and by the teachers amazing instincts for letting the children learn about life outside of their own realities. Something both politicians, the legal system and journalists are often reluctant to do when it comes to their own people.

Abiba Getaneh suffered her pain because of the impersonal and irresponsible greed of Goldman Sachs and others. Len is suffering his pain because of the closed minds of politicians and the greed of lawyers and judges who have devised a system steeped in astonishing cruelty and a secret process they can spin out for as long as they wish in order to keep the money rolling in. Tonight, somewhere in this country, a judge and lawyer will be dining out on money made from the misery of thousands of men like Len. All in the best interests of the child, of course. Most of those men will suffer in silence. Some will squeak out a weak protest online or by letters to their MP’s. Most will take pills for the depression they feel and try to go on living. Still more will kill themselves or drift into homelessness because their future has been stolen from them. Like those other victims of injustice, the men who are abused by their wives and partners in their homes everyday, they will look at people like David Cameron and Boris Johnson with undisguised disgust. They will do the same to our almost silent press who collude with MP’s, feminists and the police to walk past on the other side and to present misinformation to the public (See here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKXVcUSBKH4  ) in a deliberate policy of propaganda and deception. And that is a further difference between Abiba Getaneh’s pain and Len Miskulin’s pain. Hers was caused by unthinking greed. Len’s is caused by greed and lies.

In his latest article for the Independent, brilliant journalist Johann Hari inadvertently mirrored the attitude of the establishment to fathers deprived of their very basic human right to have contact with their own children and be involved in their upbringing. He wrote about the Peace camps protesters and spoke eloquently and movingly about why their presence on the green was more important than Boris Johnsons aesthetic sensibilities, but he skimmed past Len Miskulin’s story with barely a nod in his direction.

He writes:

“As the months went on, the tent city developed and mutated each time I visited. More protesters arrived, with a more eclectic range of grievances. A man appeared announcing he was starving himself because the courts wouldn’t let him see his children: he hasn’t eaten for more than 20 days.”

This is the story behind the announcement Johann Hari so briefly reported. It is as moving and as sad as Abiba’s story and just as unnecessary. It is time we spoke out about these men like Len and let the world know that Britain does have a heart after all.

It does, doesn’t it?

Tomorrow is day twenty eight for Len’s pain. If you can pray and know how, please do.

George Rolph
Bromley. Kent

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Follow-up:

Video of Len Miskulin’s eviction from the Peace Camp, opposite from the Parliament, in London (video link provided by George Rolph).

I am sure that quite a few of us can say: There, but for the grace of God, goes I.

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Mother sues son she abandoned

July 25, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

This is outrageous!

Mother sues son she abandoned

B.C. woman, 71, seeks support from children under archaic statute

By Denise Ryan, Postmedia News July 25, 2010

The Edmonton Journal

When Ken Anderson was just 15, his mother, Shirley, made it clear: She didn’t want him anymore.

Ken’s father, a long-haul trucker, had been transferred from Osoyoos, B.C., to the province’s Kootenay region. Although their marriage was rocky, Shirley followed, taking her second-youngest son, Darryl, with her.

Ken was left behind.

Ken had plenty of time to think about it as he wiped bug splatter off car windshields and pumped gas, lucky to pick up some shifts at the local gas station to make a buck….

The way he sees it, he never really had a mother.

On Aug. 3 and 4, Ken, now 46, will face off in B.C. Supreme Court against the woman who gave birth to him.

Shirley Anderson, now 71, is suing Ken and four of his five siblings for parental support. The case dragged on for years, but the August hearing should complete it….

Read more: http://www.edmontonjournal.com/Mother+sues+abandoned/3320560/story.html#ixzz0uhwMlHuW

Something is amiss in this case.  Ken Anderson should have launched a counter-suit to claim compensation for damages caused by the criminal act of child-abandonment by his mother.  That could truly make some lawyers happy.  They would be able to reap at least twice the profits they stand to gain from this case.

As it stands right now, who can  blame the mother for merely seeking with impunity what is rightfully hers: to be rewarded by her victims for the crimes she committed against them.  Of course, if it weren’t for ruthless lawyers who stand to profit from such cases, Shirley Anderson’s gold-digging would never have come close to the judicial arena.

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Male Power?

July 2, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Why is changing a light bulb always a guy’s job? Because women have more important things to do - like making men feel useful and important by giving them things to do, like changing light bulbs.

How many divorced men does it take to change a light bulb? None. They never get the house anyway.

— Edmonton Journal,
2007 08 28, p. B2, Venting
(more at edmontonjournal.com Online Extras - Venting)

It will take quite some time yet, however, before a majority of society gets Warren Farrell’s message expressed in the following.

One of the fascinating parts about men is our tendency to subject ourselves to war, physical abuse, and psychological abuse and call it “power.” The ability to be totally out of control while continuing to view ourselves as the ones with the power can have certain advantages to a woman. As expressed in this poem:

One-Night Stand

He bought me drinks all evening
in response to just a wink
Then accepted my invitation to
repair my kitchen sink
Then I brought him into beddy-bye
to get a little sex
Then couldn’t help but smile
when he called it conquest!

WHY MEN ARE THE WAY THEY ARE, By Warren Farrell, p. 289

That story, translated into a joke that is far more ironic than it is funny, goes like this:

An Irishman an Englishman and a Scotsman were sitting in a bar in Sydney. The view was fantastic, the beer excellent, and the food exceptional. But” said the Scotsman. “I still prefer the pubs back home. Why in Glasgow there’s a little bar called McTavish’s. Now the landlord there goes out of his way for the locals so much that when you buy 4 drinks he will buy the 5th drink for you.”

“Well.” said the Englishman “At my local, the Red Lion, the barman there will buy you your 3rd drink after you buy the first 2.”

“Ahhh that’s nothin’” said the Irishman “Back home in Dublin there’s Ryan’s Bar. Now the moment you set foot in the place they’ll buy you a drink, then another, all the drinks you like. Then when you’ve had enough drink they’ll take you upstairs and see that you get laid. All on the house.”

The Englishman and Scotsman immediately pour scorn on the Irishman’s claims. He swears every word is true.

“Well,” said the Englishman “did this actually happen to you?”

“Not to me personally, no,” said the Irishman, “but it did happen to my sister.”

found at angryharry.com

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Excerpt from The apprehension of children – boys – in antiquity, by Walter Schneider, Fathers for Life

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Seven million visitors!

July 2, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

The men’s movement cometh

You may wish to consider what is being stated in this video:

Research Biased Against Men We all know about male bashing on television. Sadly, there is a similar bias in mental health research. This video give a quick glimpse into three studies which show this anti-male bias. YouTube video by MenAreGood - 10 min.

If you wonder where those two goodies (the photo and the link to the video) came from, there’s a lot more like them at this website.

Enjoy…

By the way, I happened to notice today that the website of Fathers for Life now ranks in 457,800th place of all websites in the world.  That is because traffic volume increased 20 percent during the past month.  Incidentally, the total number of visits to the website of Fathers for Life is now at more than seven million.

–Walter

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Not even the mother knows for sure?

June 25, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Today I received a request for help in solving a man’s confusion about his alleged paternity of a boy born about 15 or more years ago.  The confusion about paternity that is exhibited in the text of the e-mail message quoted farther on (my responses are interspersed) is mind-boggling but nothing new.  It is as old as civilization.

Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own. — Aristotle

The advent of civilization is strongly connected to the regulation of human sexuality through marriage.  Marriage laws somewhat relieved possible confusion about paternity, while the abolition of the institution of marriage, an age-old primary objective of communism, set back certainty about paternity to a state closer to that existing prior to the advent of civilization.

Here is the e-mail message.

Hello Jim [not his real name],

You wrote:

So here is my question to you, Do you think I have any options.

Of course you have options.  The most obvious one is to do nothing.  However, I am not sure what that option entails.  Did the mother drop the paternity assertion?  Are you paying child support?

To explore all of the options (and their consequences) available to you, get in touch with a fathers-rights organization in Oregon, provided that that is where you are located (other than your e-mail address, you provided no information on that).

I finally found my paternity test that we took in 1995, and I have been talking to numerous paternity testing facilities and they are pretty much telling me the same thing, that it’s not a very conclusive test. They tell me that each locus should be tested twice.

Well, they are the experts.  I am not.  I am more of a historian and do recall many instances in which paternity test results were falsified.  I recall the case of a Chicago lab in which a technician falsified a large number of test results, wrongly assigning paternity to many men that had been fingered (in California, and elsewhere probably too, it is a common practice to pick the name of a prospective “father” out of the phone book).  She falsified those DNA test results simply because she hated men.

You should have the paternity test repeated.  Not only that, but you should obtain two samples and have the DNA test done by two independent labs.

for each locus both mother, child and father must have 2 alleles indicated not only 1 (es. father 6,7 is ok but 11 it isn’t ok it must be perhaps 11,11?). The value of CPI must be very high to have a reliable test (130 isn’t a sufficient value).

  I had a DNA test done back in 1995, the results showed me to be 99.29% the child’s father, with 6 alleles tested.
I think the results are wrong,

What you think is immaterial.  All that matters is what you can prove.

mother 10,11….           child 10,11……            me 11                 (1.78%)
mother 8,10…..            child 10,11…….           me 11                 (3.52%)
mother 6,8……              child  7,8………           me 6,7                (3.38%)
mother 32,6…..             child  6…………           me 5,6                (1.75%)
mother 9,10…..             child 9………               me 9,10              (2.30%)
mother 10,12….            child 10,12…..           me 10                  (1.65%)

CPI 130-1
POP 99.29%

So now I’m not sure what to do, I would like to find out if he is my son, If he’s not my son well then that would be upsetting.

But I probably still would  be liable to pay child support….just because I signed the paternity papers at the hospital and also because I have a default judgment against me. The default judgment papers I received out of the blue with no court papers before them.

What’s kinda weird is, back in 1998 i think, she was suing me for child support and I contacted the [] lab that did our DNA test and I paid them the rest of the monies to get the results back.

I sent the results to Humboldt County and a month or two later I received a letter back saying that they were dismissing the entire action against me, without prejudice. I still have that court document.

I’m so confused about this whole thing,

You confused me, too.  The mother appears to have lied, either when she asserted that you were the father or when she changed her mind and asserted that you were not the father.  However, you don’t make it clear what the mother actually claimed and claims now.

What emerges quite clearly in my mind is that for unspecified reasons you declared yourself to be the father.

In cases like yours (I assume that you were not married when you made your paternity declaration, but you gave no indication of that), the chances that a man like you is not the father are about exactly 30 percent.

I Just want to know the truth.

Well, then the answer is simple.  Have another DNA test done.

If he is my son I want to know him, which she has never let me do. I seen him 2 times that’s it. Then she moved away.

Does she or doesn’t she claim that you are the father?  In either case, you need her cooperation to obtain another DNA sample.  The problem is that if she insists that you are not the father you will most likely not be able to get her to agree to provide one.  It is then also extremely unlikely that any court will override her wishes.

And if he isn’t my son, what can I do?

Thank you very much
Jim

In that regard, what you can do is not as important as is what you want to do.  Do you wish to be held to the obligation of providing financial support for another man’s child or not?  If not, then talk to a lawyer and have him take the necessary actions to have your declaration of paternity removed from the birth registry.  The decision by the Humboldt County should help you with that.

When you are done with that, put all records of that in a secure place, try to forget about it all and hope that she will never change her mind about you not being the father.

I assume that you are presently not paying child support and that you have never done so. You stated nothing to prove that assumption to be wrong.  Did you ever consider what will happen if she decides that you must be the father after all?  If she does that, you will most likely be made to pay child support arrears going back to the date of the boy’s birth, including the medical expenses associated with her hospital stay.  Do you want to do that?

The complication that would arise is that even if you were to pay those child support arrears, that would still not ensure that you will ever get to see the boy.  Even if you were to get to see the boy, your chances of establishing a bond with him would be extremely slim to non-existent.

Regards,

Walter

Post script 2010 07 02:  Jim wrote back and explained that the mother of his alleged child, the woman who left Jim years ago to spend her life with another man whom she had known at the time that Jim was supposed to have fathered her child lost custody of the child.  She separated from the other man, and Jim is now paying child support to that man.

What would you do if you were Jim?  Consider that, whether the child is Jim’s child or not, Jim has no contact of any sort with him, but that Jim pays and pays and pays….

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Fathers Day Protest in Bangalore, India

June 21, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Videos of Father’s day Protest in Bangalore, India

By Anil Kumar <newageindian@gmail.com>

Tue, 22 Jun 2010 01:35:08 +0530

Hello Ed and all,

…videos of Father’s day protest at downtown Bangalore. The men shouted slogans against judiciary and Government for denial of access to children and shared parenting. Some men and children dressed up as mythological heroes. This is the 3rd year of Father’s day protest. They also made many conservative women to join the protest to support men.

• News in TV (1:46 min):
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VC8OT1j-blE
• Detailed Video (6:31 min):
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AxudTMMVFZc

www.crisp-india.org is the father’s and children’s rights front of men’s rights movement in India.

Best Regards
Anil

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Fighting for child custody

June 9, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Time and again I receive requests for help and advice on issues such as those outlined in the following.  I replied on average about once or twice each day during the past two weeks to such requests.

I write the advice I provided over and over, time and again.  I wrote the articles on how to select a lawyer so as to prevent me from having to write up such advice over and over.  The worst thing is that no matter what I write, post or state, extremely few people take any of it to heart.

“Bill” and “Rose” (not their real names) will have 18 to about 25 years of misery and financial hardship ahead of themselves.  They are being forced to dig a financial hole for themselves that they will most likely never be able to get out of — and even if they do, they and their kids will be set back for life.

In spite of that, it is not likely that they will do what is necessary.  Very few people will look past today.  The vast majority of those who read my advice will think it is too much work, give up, stick their heads in the sand and then get their butts shot off.  The good thing about that is that, with their heads in the sand, they will never see it coming.

Excuse my pessimism, but I am 74-years old now and have seen too much of the same thing happening, over and over.

Do you think I am wrong about it all?  Well, the website of Fathers for Life has been in existence for about 20 years.  How come that people like Bill and Rose never visited the website until they ran into trouble?

How come that the stuff I am writing about is not being taught in the schools?
–Walter

Rose wrote:

Hi there..my friend Bill is newly seperated from his girlfriend…upon seperating she agreed to week on week off custody.  1 1/2 weeks later as he returned to the apartment from the funeral of his best friend and cousin, he was presented with a lawyers letter stating she would allow him access to the child IF he didnt have him around certain people (who have no criminal record, who have years of experience in childcare, have strong educational backgrounds - one is a psw, the other has numerous diplomas and a degree which included study in psychology, etc as well as years of military service.) These said people were also the same people she depended upon, on many occasions to watch this child for her…while she worked, got groceries, etc etc and she never had a problem with them watching him until they noted suspecious behaviour on her part and told Glen.  Both can come up with wonderful letters of recomendation, etc.

He refuses to sign this document, as she is STILL trying to controll him.  During the relationship she was controlling and abusive…and neglectful to their son as well.

Since the breakup Bill has had joey for the first whole week (during which these above people watched him while glen was at work..and she even came over to interact with joey during that week while these people had him outside playing…if she was that concerned with the care, why did she leave him there?

She has no denied ALL access of Bill to joey for a little over 3 weeks.

Bill has very little in the way of money to spend on a lawyer..so I have been compiling the documents he needs and filling them out fo rhim as best I can.  We heard of a mens group who will help you fight for custody…and then I found this website…I am hoping you can help lead me in the right direction to find help for him, and have this father and son re-united.

In the conversation he had with her tonight..she is now claiming that william isn’t even Bill’s..and became very hostile when he suggested a paternity test be done…

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rose

My response:

From: Walter H. SchneiderTo: Rose

Sent: Tuesday, June 08, 2010 9:08 PM

Subject: Re: fighting for custody

Hello Rose,

If you tell me where you are located, I may be able to direct you to an organization near you.

Regards,

Walter

Rose responded:

Sorry  I  Should have insluded that.  We are located in Fredericton New Brunswick.

I responded:

Rose,

The “you” in the following refers to you and Bill.

There are two organizations in New Brunswick whom you should try to contact:

New Brunswick Children’s Equal Parenting Association
New Brunswick Shared Parenting Association

Ask both of them for advice.  If either one of them has meetings of its membership, you should try to attend.  You will learn more from individuals who are at various stages of their legal fights than you can from any lawyer.
The website of Fathers for Life and its associated blog contain a number of articles on how to select a lawyer.  Read those articles (some of them are repetitions) and learn what you should do in selecting a lawyer.

I know, you stated that Bill has little money.  It is up to you to determine whether Bill qualifies for Legal Aid.  If so, let him apply (and keep in mind that if she applies before Bill does, Bill will not be given Legal Aid — Legal Aid will not present both sides in a case).  If not, consider what the alternatives are.  Bill will potentially be forced to hand over about $250,000 to $500,000 in child support over the years, until the boy is mature or until he has finished his education, whichever comes later.

Denial of access or visitation needs to be assessed with respect to the custody and visitation order.  Interference with that order is a criminal offence.  However, the number of such offences that were prosecuted and punished in Canada can probably be counted on one hand.  I only know about two of them that were.  In both of those cases the fathers fighting for their rights went into bankruptcy.  Interestingly, neither of those fathers made any headway in court until after they went bankrupt, could no longer afford to pay their lawyers and began to represent themselves.  Great stuff, right? Legal victory predicated by financial self-immolation.

You will not gain any legal ground by trying to establish guilt.  For one thing, guilt is not punishable, and neither will be anything else be she may have done you don’t like.

Concentrate on what you primarily wish to achieve.  That is, regular and equitably-shared parenting, right?  Therefore, concentrate on what is best for the child.  Make an appearance that you are bending over backwards to please the mother, and that all else is in the best interest of the child.  However, make sure that the custody and visitation order contains a statement that specifies that the police must assist Bill if the mother should interfere with the court order.  Without that statement it is extremely unlikely that Bill will ever get the police to help him enforce his visitation rights, if that should become necessary.

You will need to file a statement of claim.  Keep that as short as possible, about a page to a page-and-a-half.  Use reference pointers to any supporting documentation.  Attach copies of the documentation and use tabs for each document, with each tab to correspond to the reference identifying the document in the statement of claim.

Learn about the rules of the court. Visit the local law library.  Find case law, that is: evidence of judgments in similar cases.

Keep tabs on what your lawyer does.  He works for you.  You must be quite clear on what you want him to do.  Make sure he does the right thing at the right time and at the right place.  Keep in mind that the lawyer will get paid whether you win or lose your case.

Try to keep your case out of the family-court system.  The family-court system is ostensibly in place to help individuals with family issues.  The reality is somewhat different.

The family-court system was put into place for no other reason than to expedite the dissolution of marriages, when the liberation of the divorce laws and the establishment of the principle of “no-fault” divorce created an insurmountable backlog of divorce applications.  (Read more: Freedom, Equality, and Society’s Treatment of Men and Families )

A secondary result that evolved over the close to 40-years time of the family-court system’s existence was that family courts evolved into a system for putting men and especially fathers into their place, which place, according to feminist doctrine, is for fathers to be without and not within families.  That is being accomplished by having the rules of the court and the rules of evidence no longer apply in family court. (Read more: Family court to men - ‘Just shut up and pay’; Bias and injustice in our family court system the root cause of many murder- suicides; Note: you can find much more information on family-court issues by searching the website of Fathers for Life for “family court”. )

The best thing you can do to help Bill is to bring Bill’s case into regular court, were his chance to receive justice according to the law will be considerably better.  However, the chances that Bill will gain anything are slim, about one in ten.  Bill most likely will at best only obtain standard visitation (one weekend every two weeks, plus half of vacation and one out of every two holidays).

In general, the only thing that Bill can be sure about is that he will be sentenced to pay for having become a father, that and that he will be ordered to pay out hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years.

Here now is the most important aspect of Bill’s whole case.

It is of course possible that Bill is the natural father of the young boy, but if I were in your position, I would make absolutely sure that the boy is Bill’s biological offspring.  The chances are on average one against two that the boy is not Bill’s child.

If Bill’s paternity has been established on the basis of DNA paternity testing, then it is reasonable for Bill to fight for regular access to the boy or perhaps even for fully shared custody.  Without proof of paternity, Bill should refuse to pay child support, and he should not bother to attempt to obtain visitation rights. (See also: Pregnant on the Sly; Table of Contents — Paternity Fraud)  Mind you, once there is a court order that sentences Bill to pay child support, then there is not much he can do (other than to try to have the court order overturned) than to pay, or else he will be breaking the law.

Regards,

Walter

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Retrosexual

June 8, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

From Merriam Webster’s TOP 10 LISTS, Top 10 User-Submitted Words, Vol. 3

#1: Retrosexual

Definition: a man who adopts a traditional masculine style in dress and manners ….

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A request for an interview

May 13, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Bill [not his real name] wrote:

Dear President or Chair person,

I’m [name omitted], a student of the [location omitted] Film School.

I’m going to make a 10 minutes mini documentary about marriage life of Man.

I came from Korea and had run Korean Fathers Club for 10 years before I moved to Canada. So I have quite a keen interest in fatherhood.

According to your research, about 75 % divorces are being initiated by women.

I would like to interview about this matter

It won’t be long and it will take 2 hours maximum.

This film will show that why young people hesitate [to enter] marriage.

Your prompt reply would be highly appreciated.

Thanks and Regard

Hello Bill [not his real name],

Thanks for writing,

The research you referred to is not mine.  I just reported on it.  The research was done by the authors of the studies mentioned in the article that may have sparked your interest.  (Unfortunately, you failed to identify which specific article out many on the topic at our website it was that you referred to.)

You can find more details on the statistics of concern in the following (source location):

Shattered Myths

When it comes to child custody, Canadian divorce law is weighted in favour of the wife.  But new research has stripped women of their moral superiority: It suggests they initiate divorce twice as often as men. (Alberta Report, Jan 11, 1999; the article is no longer available at the website of the Alberta report.  It is now available here.  2003 03, —WHS)

See also the study report “These Boots are Made for Walking: Why Wives File for Divorce,” by Margaret F. Brinig and Douglas W. Allen.  The article quotes extensively from that report.

• “These Boots are Made for Walking: Why Wives File for Divorce,” by Margaret F. Brinig and Douglas W. Allen.

This study report is based on an analysis of 46,000 divorce certificates from Connecticut, Virginia, Oregon and Montana.  The authors state that the data from these records are relatively accurate, “since they are compiled by judicial personnel from facts alleged by the parties and proven based upon sworn testimony in court hearings.”  [My emphasis, —WHS]
That would reflect assumptions that all allegations are true, that only sworn true testimony is being accepted by the courts, and that the judicial system is absolutely neutral and doesn’t exhibit any gender bias.  Because all three of those assumptions are patently false, it is debatable to what extent the conclusions by the author are accurate, namely that although often the act of filing for divorce is being motivated by considerations of material gain through seizing assets, it is also driven to a considerable extent by the wish to escape exploitation.  The impression is given that in the latter case it is the wife who has the impression that she is being exploited by her husband.

The authors found that “who gets the children is by far the most important component in deciding who files for divorce, particularly when there is very little quarrel about property, as when the separation is long.”  Although the authors report that women file more often for divorce, by far, and increasingly so, they purport that this is so because women generally are more attached to the children of the marriage than the fathers are.

Information from the report was extensively quoted in Shattered Myths.

MS Word files containing the study report are available at

• http://fathersforlife.org/boots113.doc (text and footnotes)
• http://fathersforlife.org/tables10.doc (tables)

Caution: The footnotes weren’t shown when I displayed the files using MS Word6 on my PC.  However, the printouts of the files contained all of the footnotes.

The study report by Brinig and Allen is also available in HTML (abstract) and in PDF format (full text — 189 kB).

I suggest that you read the study report by Brinig and Allen, and that you then try to arrange for an interview with them.

For some constructive alternatives to that, I suggest that you contact Stephen Baskerville, the author of “Taken into Custody: The War Against Fatherhood, Marriage And Family.“  He has researched and written extensively for a considerable number of years on the issue of fatherhood.  His website is at http://www.stephenbaskerville.net/

A discussion of marriage and fatherhood lacks in an important aspect if it leaves out divorced and expunged fathers, that is, fatherhood (or the lack of it) for children of divorce.  Feminist propaganda tells us that fathers routinely and overwhelmingly walk out of their marriages and their children’s lives.

A thorough debunking of that feminist, propagandistic maxim is contained in a book you should also familiarize yourself with before interviewing either Brinig, Allen or Baskerville.  That book is based on the findings of extensive, government-sponsored research done by Sanford Braver.

Braver, Sanford Ph.D. — Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths : The Surprising Truth About Fathers, Children, and Divorce (Hardcover - 288 pages (October 1998) J P Tarcher; ISBN: 087477862X ) Review

According to Marty Witbeck: “…Buy extra copies for judges, key lawyers, and members of your state legislature.  Send a copy to your Governor, the Speaker of your House, and the presiding officer of your Senate.  Send a copy to each journalist writing on family issues in your local newspapers.  Send copies to the editors of those newspapers.”

The book reviews accessible at Amazon.com are few and short.  They do not do either the subject or the book full justice.  I wrote extensively and frequently about Sanford Braver’s book.  He and his book are mentioned in everyone of the articles on this list.

It is my understanding that Dr. Braver, too, is readily available for interviews.

It is not that I don’t wish to be interviewed by you, but the reality of it is that I am sufficiently well informed to be able to judge correctly that any or any combination of the individuals mentioned above (or any others like them) would be a far better choice for interviews.

I am getting on in age (74 years old), am very tired and have not done any original research (other than writing about the research done by others).  Most importantly, I have no academic credentials.  I would not be the best choice through which to promote objective knowledge about the issue of interest to you.

All the best,

Walter Schneider
http://fathersforlife.org
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P.S.: Much of the social research and the issues it relates to that I wrote about it somewhat dated.  That does not mean that the information pertaining to it is now false.  It is just as correct as it always was.

Things have become worse for fathers, families and marriage.  We see now some of the final battles in the war against the family.  That war is nothing other than an outcome of the agenda for the implementation of the planned destruction of the family.

By the way, and on a more personal level, I worked in Seoul, in 1961 and 1962, on the construction of the Kwang Wha Moon telephone switching exchange.  Perhaps that is why I was happy to accommodate a more recent comment from Korea about the issues of men and fathers.  Well, I can’t date that information quite exactly.  Normally I show the dates for when something was posted or updated but, for unknown reasons, not in this case.  Nevertheless, I believe that the information dates to about the time when you left Korea, for which reason you can probably relate to it fairly well.  Therefore, you will be able to determine to what extent things differ now with respect to how little men are respected in our society.  But that is not all.

Things are no longer the way they were for families and fathers in Korea when I was there or when you still were.  Things will become somewhat worse yet, before or if they become any better.  However, before any improvement takes place we will most likely have to endure a socialist, totalitarian world government through which we will all become normalized down to the lowest common denominator, the status of the poorest nations in the world.

The goal of the agenda for the implementation of the planned destruction of the family is the reduction of the world population down to 300 million to one billion people. –WHS

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Why we have two hands

May 3, 2010 by Walter Schneider.

Vicky [not her real name],

You told me that you don’t like reading.  Nevertheless, do me a favour and read all of what I am writing here.  After all, it’s not that long a write-up.

I know that you did not write anything in relation to those two photos you sent under the heading “Why we have two hands”, one of a little girl with a credit card and a cellphone, and the other of a little boy holding a remote control and his genitals.

Up-front, I don’t feel offended by the two photos, even though the photos offend both women and men.  The reason why I don’t feel offended is that the premise of the alleged “humour” in those photos is based in ignorance or, perhaps more correctly, in propaganda.  Jokes are humorous because they contain a kernel of truth.  They are often the more humorous the more of the truth they contain.  As far as that goes, your two photos contain very little truth and even less humour.

Objectively, I don’t want to over-analyze what is behind the two photos, but both of them are serious distortions of reality.  Many of such distortions are not as funny as they appear to be at first glance.

The photos brought something to my mind that happened when Ruth and I went with my older brother, who is somewhat of a feminist, to Northern Michigan.

I wrote a comment about that incident, and I made sure to drive my point home with my brother after the fact, by sending him a copy of that commentary.  Here is the main issue.

We had just arrived at the Mackinaw bridge and were at a visitor information centre.  There was an exhibit of a model of the bridge.  The short write-up associated with that model provided a few statistics, such as how long the bridge was, when it was built, how much time it took to build, how many men it took to build the bridge and how many of them had died building it.

My brother speaks and understands English, but to let the facts sink into his memory, he translated the facts and figures into German.  In doing so, he mis-translated “men” into the German word “Menschen”, which means “people” and not “men”.

I corrected him and explained that the bridge was built by men, specifically, and not just by “people”, and that it was men and only men, not just people, who had died during its construction.

It is something that many people, especially those of a feminist bent, forget when they re-write history, even if it is nothing more than propagandistic jokes or photos such as the two you sent out, photos that downplay the role of men in our society and throughout civilization.

As I explained to my brother, just about everything you see that did not grow by itself, was built or made by men.  Certainly, many things were made by women, clothing, for example (although even much of that is being made by men), but also the tools with which clothing is being made were designed and made by men, too.

Look around you.  Everything, absolutely everything you see and use right now, has been made by men.

Look out of the window.  Everything that did not grow by itself has been designed, engineered and made by men: your car, the roads it travels on, the materials both are made from — all made or produced by men.  The trailer you live in, the materials it was built with, the tools to work those materials, the mining that was done to produce some of the raw materials for the construction materials, all made by men.

Men have two hands, and so do women.  I won’t run down the good things that women do with their hands, no more so than I wish anyone to forget or make light of what men do with their hands.  Let’s not forget that men use their hands for far more than holding remote controls and their genitals.

It is said that women’s work is never done.  Just the same, it can also be said that men’s work is never done, but that, far more importantly, men’s work is never seen or, thanks to feminism, hardly ever recognized properly.

However, men’s work comes at a terrible cost.  Men’s lives are on average ten percent shorter than women’s lives.  That is mostly because men’s work kills far more men (e. g.: about 100,000 men — and no women — died throughout the world in mining accidents during the last century) than women’s work kills women.

For as long as statistics on that have been kept, about 18.5 job fatalities out of every twenty involved men as victims.  The reasons why women have not yet reached equality with men in that area of human endeavor (the statistics show not the slightest trend of that being changed any time soon, if ever) is a subject of a different and far longer discussion.  I will not go into that right now.

So, even if we try to be funny, let’s be a bit more honest about what we do with our hands.  A lie, even if made out to be humorous, is still a lie.

All the best,

Walter

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